Author: mysteriousalien2

Just a random human being on the earth who likes to write and eat;)

Happy Mind Happy Life!

Happiness is not about getting all you want. It is about enjoying what you have.

Mind is one of the main reasons for our existence. We humans tend to overthink a lot. We know we can do it, but we will still overthink and pressure ourselves and our minds. When you realize that mental health is so expensive that no money can buy it. When you realize in one moment while sitting that there is a smile on your face yet from inside you are so hollow that a breeze of wind will turn it into ashes. When you realize that the surroundings you are in are not bringing you comfort, that moment is the most horrifying because you have to start it all again. Finding the surroundings that truly make your mental health good is so hard. Like friendship groups in our childhood we have many close friends but when we grow up keeping up with everyone is not a cup of tea. And you realize that only one friend is all that matters. Mind is a very complicated part of ourselves; we truly do not know what we want at the right time. It all happens when the realization begins that maybe some decisions should have been changed. Past really takes a toll on our mind, the trauma that we all dealt with never leaves what if the same thing happens again? What will we do? It takes a lot of courage to give the mind a piece of advice that it is going to be okay, to reach somewhere we have to try, and nobody is perfect, and that is okay.

People nowadays have seriously stopped caring about their mental health, and it is nobody’s fault you can’t blame anyone. It is the time that brings phases of things we wish to never live, yet it teaches us a lot. If you can take care of your feelings, and emotions then making your mind happy is not that hard. I will always say choose yourself over anything. If you are truly happy from inside then you are truly happy. I know it’s very hard to find things that make you happy, but unless you won’t find them you won’t know it because happy mind happy life!

She loved her life and it loved her back.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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A Trip To Remember…

“Travel far enough, you meet yourself.”

David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas.

September 24, 2023

A single phone call invitation for my mother and me to visit another state in India allows us to extend our memories by capturing the beauty of our country. On September 24, 2023, four of my family members (mama, mami, aunty, mother, and me) booked our train tickets to Ahmedabad, Gujarat from our hometown for 12th January 2024, Friday. Since then my anticipation especially was on top of the mountain as it has been ages since I have travelled a long distance by train precisely to be 10 years.

December, 2023

I started a new journey towards my career and so far I am loving it. I got the news that my exams will be in January now when I didn’t know that is how my December month started. Amidst all the wedding season, studying, lectures, and overthinking sessions I got the notice that my exams would be postponed. Yay to be honest I would not mind if I had not gone but still, I would hate that I missed the opportunity.

January, 2024

Finally, the new year came in 2024 I did not realise it because of all the tension of my exams even though it was postponed but still I had my internals that could start anywhere in January and I did not want to miss any lectures. I prepared all of my projects to be on the safe side. Then finally the preparation of packing and we were supposed to do a lot of shopping (my mother) there so we took a little with us.

12th – 15th January, 2024

At night we reached the station and started the journey and on 13th January we reached Ahmedabad and were welcomed by a winter that we didn’t get where we live. We Indians have that thing wherever we go we have to have tea so we have a cup of tea to soothe our souls and proceed to the place where we all will be living for the next 3 days. The place is just beautiful and calming and where we stayed every day all around the place there is a market of clothes and vegetables which makes it more lively. We all enjoyed every second of living there since the atmosphere and people were so friendly and lively. We all visited some of the famous places and got to know the history behind them. Ahmedabad has such a historical culture from food to places everywhere you will find yourself surrounded by heritage. Also, the second you look up to the sky the flocks of birds just pass through you and huge flocks of birds fly together it was just beautiful to watch. And also where we were living there was the airport close by so I saw many aeroplanes up close with my bare eyes and it just felt like a special memory that I will hold forever.

If you know me you know I LOVE FOOD, and I really wanted to try authentic Gujarati dishes, and I did and loved it. It was refreshing to try something different and delicious. Then comes the part in which I have a hate relationship with shopping. My other family members shopped a lot and I have this book lover thing in me that wherever I visit I look at if there is any book market near the place and same I did and found a book market so on the last day since we already had a handful of luggage I just bought three books and I am grateful for it. The weather and the foreignness of the sweater on my body were so much appreciated by me.

The trip was great and fun we all laughed a lot and I even learned some Gujarati words. It was refreshing that in three days we all did so many great things. With the right people even the wrong time becomes right. I never knew taking a trip, even a small one, was so easy only when you have the right people and the attitude of just doing it.

If you never go, you will never know.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Deep Feelings!

You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.

It is really dangerous when you start to feel, and it is more difficult when you don’t know what are you feeling and why are you feeling? I was never good at handling my feelings because I didn’t know how to. As an adult, it is so much that with our own feelings, we have to look at what others feel too, how brutal is that. Here I can’t even deal with managing mine yet, I have to care about others as well, funny isn’t it? Now that I am writing about this post my feelings are all over the place, and I am unable to figure out what actually is happening to me. However, in my course of going through so many feelings, I have realised that you just need to give time that is what I have done and will be doing. You are mistaken if you think that feelings are always about the present or the future no absolutely not it’s about the past that comes crashing down on you. Past feelings and how much regret we have is another kind of inner battle we have to deal with every single night. Sometimes the wound is so deep that it doesn’t even heal physically. Have you ever done just opening up the window and staring right at the moon closing your eyes and just thinking about what is happening to you? Even though the wind is blowing around you and you have plenty of space to breathe, something is suffocating you and the worst is that you don’t know what is suffocating you.

But at the same time when you open your eyes, you see how beautiful the moon is amidst the dark night which everyone is afraid of. But remember the moon and stars will not shine if there is no darkness. Everyone is afraid of darkness but forget once they see how beautiful it makes the world. Just like that if your life is not going great that doesn’t mean nothing will fall in place remember moon also has to go through phases just so that it can be whole and more beautiful.

everyone has a chapter that they don’t read out loud.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Things To Not Feel Guilty About.

“Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You are responsible for your happiness.”

1. Don’t feel guilty about choosing yourself. There is no one in the world who can understand you better than you. Being selfish for yourself is not at all bad but it’s crucial for you, for your growth and your happiness.

2. Don’t feel guilty for standing up for yourself. This is one of the problems that I have also dealt with. While standing up for myself and speaking for myself with someone close to me, I do feel guilty but it is important so that you can show others that you are not someone they can step upon. Stand up for yourself, only you can do that and don’t ever feel bad, it’s important to have respect for yourself.

3. Don’t feel guilty about letting go and moving on. I have talked about this in my previous posts. Letting go is important because people who don’t treat you well, will not treat you better if you will work harder. If they don’t care for you then, they will never do it now. Move on from the past, from the people who are best to forget.

4. Don’t feel guilty for accepting the appreciation. If you are good at it then you are. It’s the end of the discussion. Just take the compliment, people gracefully;)

5. Don’t feel guilty for choosing your happiness. You know a time comes when you just have to be selfish for yourself, you are done being selfless. Fight for your happiness and do what makes you happy. I know it’s so hard to make people understand that they are not living your life but you are so happiness should come to you not them. You are not responsible for their happiness but you are responsible for yours.

6. Don’t feel guilty about taking a break. It’s okay to be behind and it’s okay if someday you don’t feel like getting up. You are just preparing to bounce forward hard.

7. Don’t feel guilty for saying no to things that don’t feel good to you. Just because someone else likes it doesn’t mean it will be the same to you and it’s okay. Everyone is different and you should have the courage to say no to things that your guts feel are not for you.

be obsessed with yourself, people.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Inevitable.

Life humbles you as you age.

You realize how much time you wasted on nonsense.

Why is it so hard to accept rejection and why is it so hard to accept reality? Everything in life is chaos and our mind plays the biggest reason for it. I know how much I think about the future or even the next day, nothing happens, it’s just my thoughts that keep me awake at night. I am not at all an overthinking person, but adult life has made me engage in it for a while now. I never understood people who do overthinking, and say it’s so dangerous. Now I know why it is dangerous. I have learned the hard way that accepting reality is one of the important things you can do to live a peaceful life. There are things in life that are inevitable that cannot be changed and you have only two options. First, let yourself sink in the things that happen and dwell but nothing is going to change. The second one lets your mind accept that it happened now you have to move on. In life, things are going to happen, it’s compulsory to us, it is inevitable we can’t change them but we have to learn how to accept it. The attitude of saying, ‘Yes it happened now, I should not dwell on it and let’s look at the next move.’ Pain is inevitable and it will come back at every interval if people keep suffering for everything then what will happen, you can’t even imagine it. Keep the attitude of thinking about yourself, and give yourself the determination that you are going to live this life however you want. Rejections and failures are inevitable, it is going to come how much you will try to escape it. So be smart, accept those things and work your way to achieve the life you deserve, because life has moments that are inevitable.

Change is inevitable.

Even is you’re not ready for it.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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The Reality of MOVING ON!

if it’s out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind too.

How hard it is to let go of things that mattered to us the most and the longest. Don’t you ever wonder that after spending so much time together you just have to let go, suddenly you just have to. And letting things happen normally you don’t even realize when the distance happens, when you stop talking, everything just happens and there is no answer to when and why it happened. However, the story of moving in after that is totally opposite. Moving on doesn’t happen overnight while forgetting everything, the first step is that you remember each and every pain of things from that you have to move on. Even letting go and moving on from a bad day is so hard that forgetting about things and people that matter to you is definitely not an easy process. It’s funny how when you become an adult, it is complying in your life that you will lose friends, lose interest in so many things, have more hard days, the responsibility that you never asked for, and more things that will make you question is that really the adult life you dreamed of in your childhood. Moving on is not at all easy because in every step the flashback hits and the what-if list comes up. But soon you will understand that moving is important and amidst that, you do not even remember when life starts to get better, when you have new friends, and when you truly start living. Soon you will get the reality check of how wasteful it is to cry over something that has already happened and things will never change but that doesn’t mean it will not get better for you. However, to reach that step you need to have the reality of MOVING ON!

it’s not the goodbye that hurts, but the flashbacks that follow.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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It’s Going To Be OKAY!

There are going to be days when you are not going to be okay with everything that is happening to you and around you but you are going to have to tell yourself everything is going to be alright just so you can sleep at night and move on.

Hey there, I think it is really important that you know right now that it’s going to be OKAY. I just want to tell you that because I feel like you needed to hear that, and I really mean that. I am really proud of you. You might feel like it’s really tough, and I know it’s really tough, but please hang in there and everything is going to be okay. Trust yourself it’s just a life phase, it’s just a chapter it will pass on, and it will turn. Just please hang in there. I just want to say that overthinking will take you nowhere. You should know that every feeling you feel doesn’t need to have an answer or solution. Sometimes you need to accept what you are feeling and slowly you have to let it sink. Life is never perfect, we miss opportunities, we make mistakes, we lose our minds, and it’s okay it’s a part of the life you are living. It doesn’t show that you are failing, no, it doesn’t. Just as feelings of accomplishment or happiness make you happy at the same time feelings of sadness, and unsuccessfulness make you strong. Just like I say every time life is a process of bitter sweet bitter sweet. You need to feel and go through all the steps you can’t escape anyone and you need to accept that. Somedays are meant to teach you and somedays are meant to reflect, it’s part of life that is inevitable. Take a deep breath and say that it’s going to be OKAY!

Not going to spoil the ending for you, but it’s going to be okay.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Things you can’t make people understand.

Some people are committed to misunderstand you. Let them. Focus on yourself and only yourself.

It has been such a thing around us about how you should be able to make everyone happy and do things that people expect you to do. A long time ago, I learned how hard it is to be quiet when you want to say something but at the same time, it taught me how much peace it brings to my mind. Because you can’t make people understand if they don’t want to understand. We are so used to seeing opinions about ourselves from the eyes of others. Still, some people make others feel that their opinion about them is right. At the adult age, you will understand that you can’t make people see you how you want them to. Everyone you will meet has their opinion about you maybe it’s good or maybe it’s not your business because you should never give anyone a chance to give an opinion about yourself. What goes inside your mind only you know. And sometimes it’s very hard to make people understand that you don’t need advice for it. It’s not always that one needs advice but an assurance that mistakes happen and it’s not the end of the world. You don’t need to change yourself for others, to fit in their category of opinion about you. I know it hurts when nobody believes in you, and I won’t say it gets easier as you move on. But trust your instinct people are always going to say something about you, it’s you who need to make a goal to not care about other and remembers that there are things you can’t make people understand. Because people don’t know why we are having such a hard time, or why we are struggling so much, and there’s no one who can understand.

Don’t change yourself for someone who don’t understand you.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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When reality hits too HARD.

teach your heart to accept disappointments,

even from the people you love.

When coming back home from a very good day spent, singing on the street, jumping around but as close as the home is the feeling inside starts to change and you also don’t realize the humming of the song or when your feet become cold and stuck at one place. All these happen because when reality hits too hard the tape that holds the bubble starts tearing apart and you are left alone with no one around only your thoughts and fear that eats you up. Reality is something that no one wants to accept however the quicker you accept the reality the inevitable the better the fog of confusion and delusion starts to clear up. The realisation when your face hits the cold pillow that how much behind you are and how much you didn’t succeed today. At the end of the day, we get the chance to reflect on our day and most of the time it’s disappointing only because reality is not easy, however, we need to accept the truth of how it is and reality can’t be changed. However, it doesn’t mean your life motive is over but sometimes we need to have a reality check in between in order to stay put. Everyone is different as some accept the inevitable while some try to find out what they did wrong. Nothing is wrong it’s just that reality has its own way of shaping us and finding the real route for us. Sometimes when everything starts to be overwhelming or things might be going good but you still feel lost there is when reality needs to step up so that you can have a more clear picture of your life. Remember awful feelings may make you feel awful but these are the only feelings that can make you strong and at that time when you don’t even need them but ahead in future you will not even realize how good you are handling the situations that reality taught you back in the days and that is why it is important to accept when reality hits too hard.

And in the end, all I learned was, to be strong

Alone.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Struggling…

Every struggle in your life has shaped you into the person you are today.

Be thankful for the hard times, they can only make you stronger.

Struggling is that factor of one’s life that is not at all looked upon when talking about people’s success and even failure. The number of people who struggle every single day to meet their ends or to protect their mental health is innumerable and is ignored when we see those same people smiling and enjoying themselves because each one of them has so much to tell. Struggles are not seen in broad daylight, they crave out only when your face hits the cold pillow or when midst of chaos you feel lonely. Struggling every moment of your life and to be able to be the best version of yourself is so hard. Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors, nobody knows how many tears are shredded to even begin with a new page in life, nobody knows the amount of taunting voice that disturbs us every single time when we are happy, and nobody knows how much struggle we have done to reach there. There are always two sides to the story, one is what we let the people see and the other side is where people themselves decide what they want to see. Never ever feel that your struggles are nothing, they are proof to yourself that you have done everything in your power despite so many hurdles to not give up. Just like after every sunset there is a sunrise behind every struggle you do that leads to you being stronger. Every struggle gives you double the strength to fight against them, just remember that struggling is a moment that will pass soon just like everything else. I am so proud of you, I know you are struggling so do I but we got this, don’t worry. You need to fight and prove to yourself that you are the best and you are enough for yourself despite all the struggles.

Just because someone carries it well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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