Be Selfish!

Why is it bad to be selfish for ourselves? Why does everyone make us feel bad for choosing ourselves? In life, we can’t have all the things. If we want something, we need to sacrifice other things. However, why does everyone in the world want us to sacrifice what we truly want so that what they want can be achieved? I never understood the concept of living our lives not in our way but in the way others want. The world makes us feel so guilty for choosing ourselves, as if we are abandoning others, which is a serious crime. Why can’t a person live their life in the way they want? The people who are close to us feel that we don’t deserve happiness or freedom. Why does everything need to be done in the comfort of others? Why can’t we just do it without thinking about what others want? Why is being selfish seen as a crime? Why do we need to think about others before making a decision? Why can’t we just make the decision and live it? Why do we have to answer to others? Why is giving freedom seen as losing dominance over us by the world? Why does everything need to be explained when it comes to us living our lives?

There are so many whys when it comes to us making decisions about the life that we are meant to live. I feel like everyone wants us to be selfless in everything, but when it comes to us, nobody wants to be selfless for us. So in the end, we are the only ones who suffer the most. So why not ignore everyone? Maybe it will hurt them, but what about our pain, our hurt? Nobody sees it. So just do the heck you want, live the life, be selfish for yourself. Do what you want to do, don’t listen to others. In the end, the only thing that will be left is the regret of not fighting or the memories that made the life worth fighting for. So be selfish, it’s your life, and believe me, doing what you love is what life is all about.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Quietness!

As I grew older, I realised that there is noise even in quietness. The more I grew up, the more I started liking being alone. In my childhood, I used to believe that being alone was not good at all; however, now I like to spend my time with myself the most. No matter how much social battery I have, I will always need time for myself. It’s actually a privilege to be able to love and understand yourself, and that only happens when we spend time with our thoughts. There is always a voice in quietness, the voice of our inner self that guides us on what and how to do. You can only love others if you start with yourself, and for that, you need to understand what happens in the quietness. I am always someone who will zone out in the loudest crowd. I don’t know why the voice in me is so loud that it never allows the outside voice to reach inside. We can see it as a metaphor too. It’s all in us; if we want to achieve something, we need to trust ourselves and just do it. Don’t let the outside voice take away your inner voice. You can be as loud to yourselves about things that you want in your life. You need to understand that there is a voice in your heart that knows you better than anyone, that stands with you when the world points at you, and that voice is trust and belief. There is so much you can find in quietness, even yourself. It’s mandatory to look after yourself, to be selfish for yourself, to find the voice that describes just you. In quietness, you find yourself, and you start seeing yourself the way you want rather than from the world’s point of view. So being in peace, in quietness, is a way to listen to the inner voice that best describes you.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Make it the right moment!

We always wait for the right moment so that we can do or start something. However, does it ever occur that the right moment never comes but is made? When we start something new, we see things happening one by one in our favour. Isn’t it strange how we know nothing but that we start and find ourselves actually enjoying it? So it’s never about the right moment; it’s actually how we create it. Waiting is never the solution for things which we have never tried; it’s always going to be tough. We have to try and experience, we can’t just wait for the right moment to come. I feel like waiting and thinking that we need to become more capable first, and then doing it only leads to us delaying everything. We need to do it right in the moment; we can’t wait for the right moment or when it feels right. How will we know unless we don’t do it? I feel like, from my personal experience, I have learned that whenever I think about how I am going to do it, and feel afraid to just start, it makes me doubt myself more than actually doing it. We, humans, are made to adapt to change; we know how to handle situations, learn new things and trust ourselves. And for that, we can’t just sit and wait for the right moment to come. It’s all in our hands; if we want something from life, then we need to do it without waiting for the right moment. If an opportunity comes along, remember it can bring you a lot in terms of growth or lessons, and both are important in life. Don’t let go of the opportunity just because of your fears; everyone starts when they are afraid, but slowly they find their moment right. We can’t expect the right moment to come just by sitting; we need to take the step, face the fear and make it the right moment. So if you are waiting for the right moment to come, it’s never going to happen. All is up to you; only you can make it the right moment by acting upon it. Don’t think too much, just go for it, and everything will work out eventually.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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The Stronger Ones

And sometimes you meet yourself back where you started, but stronger.

I was reading a quote that I screenshot, probably many years ago, which is how stronger ones know the pain of everything. Because they have gone through the pain of dealing with things in life. How funny is life? If it wants to make you stronger, it will make you suffer in a way that you get used to. The stronger you are, the more pain you learn to hide. I will say from my experience, life teaches you everything you need to know how to be strong, even in situations where you want to scream to the world how much you are suffering. It’s not bad being the weaker ones because that’s how you become the stronger ones. Stronger ones are not the ones who know their way around everything beforehand. They are those who know how to spend hours working hard and how to handle various situations. Being strong doesn’t mean knowing everything, but it means knowing how to deal with situations. Crying is never a weakness, but a sign of never giving up and the way to make the heart stronger for life. The way we deal with situations, the more we become stronger. Also, nobody deserves to know what you do, how you do it, or how you deal with situations. It’s only your concern how to be strong and keep going in life. Being stronger and being weaker go hand in hand; they coexist. The stronger ones dealt with situations where they knew nothing; however, they kept going. At some point in life, we need to have some time where we blow off everything that we are dealing with through taking a break, crying and totally not being okay. And everything is fine as long as you don’t give up. So, all out there, remember life is tough, but you are too!

This is tough. But so am I.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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You can start AGAIN

You can start again, like the sun does every morning.

Nobody does it at first, and that’s why they are so experienced the second time. We were always told that the world would remember you if you did it first. But how wrong it is! So many people we look up to never did it at first, so it doesn’t matter when you try. What matters is that you didn’t give up. Nobody knows how much effort we are putting in, spending sleepless nights overthinking and crushing our dreams because of reality. Nobody is, and will be, there to assure us, to support us, and to tell us it’s totally okay to start again. But I am here to tell you that it’s totally okay to start again. Starting again is seen as a curse or a poison, but it’s important you ignore that and do what you want to do. It’s a way to find ourselves again. Life is not truly over until we give up. And we never give up. The world will be disappointed, but you should never be disappointed in yourself. Only you know how much you have worked, and slowly, with time, everything will be better. Starting again gives you the chance to breathe again, to make your life whole, to dream, to take the step, and to start smiling. So remember that you can always start again, no matter what others say. Till you are breathing, you will always have the chance to start again. It’s a way to feel whole again, to think that life never stops just because something didn’t work out. So if you are feeling insecure about how to start again, close your eyes, think about yourself, take a deep breath and tell yourself. There is so much left for you to do, so you can’t give up, and the only option left is to START AGAIN.

never feel guilty for starting again.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Every great story takes time to unfold

“In the end, we’ll all become stories.” – Margaret Atwood.

I love books, and most of the credit for my blogging goes to them. If I hadn’t started reading, I probably wouldn’t be here writing this blog post. One of the biggest reasons why I love books is that they know how to reach my emotions without actually showing. What I have learned from the books is that every book and every story takes time to unfold. In the beginning, everything is a mess, the protagonist is trying to find how to survive, and in the end, everything makes sense. Doesn’t this apply to our lives? Our lives are like book pages, each page inks what is happening and the problems that need to be dealt with. The pages are going to turn, but only after the first page is fully inked or you decide to leave it blank. I never really understood the concept of blank pages until a theory made it into my mind. That’s how important that blank page is. It is not easy to leave the page blank, but sometimes in life we are forced to leave behind what we truly desire and start over. It also means that ahead the pages will be filled with beautiful ink that will compensate for that blank page. So every story unfolds, but slowly, some pages are blanks, some are messy, and some are beautiful. Just like life, it is filled with stages where we will face so many scenarios. But it doesn’t stay forever, just like pages are turned exactly when situations change. And each situation, be it good or small, will forever be embedded in our minds. Some pages will teach us lessons, some will make us happy, some will make us sad, and some will forever be there, reminding us to never give up. So just like every story takes time to unfold, go through different stages in the same way our likes are like this. Our lives take time to unfold, and we go through different stages to see our story unfold. Also, in the world, there are many books according to everyone’s taste. Just like that in your lives, you have chances to throw the entire book and write a new one the way you want.

“Maybe it’s not about a happy ending. Maybe it’s about the story.” – Albert Camus

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Sometimes it just takes time…

Just because it’s taking time doesn’t mean it’s not working.

Sometimes it takes time to feel whole again. Time is everything; with time, everything improves, and often we learn a great deal about life and its various stages. Patience is everything, and it’s also one of the toughest things to achieve when we go through every day waiting for the day when we feel it’s the best time. However, sometimes it takes time for everything to improve, and in that, we need to keep going, maintain our patience, and believe that everything will get better soon. Sometimes life tests us in many ways, and some of them are so hard that we just don’t want to continue; however, if it’s not happening, that doesn’t mean it won’t happen. Maybe it’s preparing you for the big day. Time teaches us many things; it teaches us to hold on and sometimes just to let go and flow with it. Sometimes we need to learn patience, believe in ourselves, and realise that better days are coming. As someone who has always doubted myself, I have come to realise how capable I am of doing many things. Time lets you hold on to things, take it slow, and learn slowly how to achieve them. On the other hand, it also teaches that it’s better just to let go; maybe it’s time to move on and find something that truly deserves our time. What I have learned in my life is that many things we desire never really come quickly; they come slowly, taking their time because they want us to understand and know their worth. As well as we come to understand ourselves and how much worth we are to time. So if something is taking time, it’s okay, you are doing your best. Remember, we want to hold things for the longest, or maybe forever, so it will take time to ensure everything is worthy for us. It’s difficult, especially when you don’t know when it will happen; however, trust yourself – things that are meant for you will definitely come your way in the most glorious way possible.

One day at a time, one step at a time.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Focus on yourself!

You get what you focus on so focus on what you want.

Focus on yourself and what you truly want. From our childhood, we were always told what we would be when we grew up. When we grow up, we start to realise the meaning of life, ourselves and what we truly want. Everything changes. When we realise that there is a voice in us that is totally different from others, we need to understand it. When we reach a certain age, we come to realise ourselves, and we also face insecurities that others love to point out. In the beginning, we will hate our insecurities, we will try to hide them; however, with time, as we grow, we understand that no one matters but us. We start to love ourselves, we start to embrace our insecurities, and in the end, no one matters but us. I feel like it’s such an underrated and rare feeling about starting to love ourselves, choose ourselves and just be the bird flying with the biggest wings ever. Focus on yourself, this is your life, and you have every right to live it the way you want. When you choose yourself, many things will be left behind, and that’s okay because you are doing it for yourself. We live in a world where we will have thousands of people who have an opinion on us, but what we need to do is just let go. Focus on yourself, your mental health, your wellbeing, you being healthy is most important. Life becomes peaceful when we choose ourselves, do what we really love and let our inner self be at ease. So just do what really makes you happy, don’t let others ruin your happiness because you choose yourself. The world will always say something, so why not just focus on yourself and do what you really love, because what matters is your happiness and nothing else. True happiness and relief come from doing things that our heart desires, so just focus on yourself!

Focus on yourself don’t get lost in other people.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Is life this serious?

Don’t think too much.

The question that changes in the situation of lives. I love to watch interview videos of old people and the advice they give. Among all the videos, the most common one was to live life to the fullest, because we will regret not living in the moment. When I think about life, I see it as a process that continues. There will be sadness, but also, after that, happiness is going to wait for us. If we take life too seriously, then when are we going to live? We can’t be waiting for life to give us the chance, but we have to make it in the moment. What I feel is that life is not that serious; it’s how we make it that matters the most. At this point in my life, I have seen many situations and overthought a lot, but in the end, everything went well. But overthinking takes a heavy toll on my health, which is hard to recover from. So whenever I come across a situation, I try not to overthink it but trust my abilities. The thing that I don’t like is regret that someday in my life ahead I will have the regret that I didn’t live my life the way I wanted to, just because I overthink a lot or take my life too seriously. We can’t bring time back, so we take life too seriously, just thinking about problems, and not enjoying living in the moment, which kind of destroys the whole purpose of life. It’s all on you, how you analyse the situation, and don’t let your heart be closed to the world. Open yourselves up to the world; there is so much to enjoy, it’s our mind that is stopping us from letting us live, but create that mindset, and everything will be fine.

Don’t worry about what you can’t control.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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The burden of…everything

Not everything that weighs you down is yours to carry.

Why does every responsibility need to be a burden? As we learn to take responsibility, why does it keep increasing slowly, and why does every person need to make us aware of how little we are doing? Why can’t anyone see how hard we are trying every single day, every single minute? The burden becomes so much that we don’t even realise when we stop laughing, zoning out in the crowd and stop doing what we really love. Then I ask myself the question, who is going to save me? And the instant answer that I get is myself. My courage and my abilities to know my capabilities. As an adult, I know that I should keep myself as the biggest priority, and I should take care of myself. The day we start thinking for ourselves and saying no, which is necessary, everything will change, but for ourselves, everything will get better. What we like, what we love to do, what we want to be in the future, all of these questions are answered by ourselves only. There is no one to share the burden, and I don’t think we need anyone. It’s life, it is going to be full of responsibilities; however, when it starts to suffocate you, it’s time to take action and think for yourself. Keeping boundaries while choosing yourself is very important and healthy. I feel like the world doesn’t allow a person to live their life but to care for others, but that’s not right. Aren’t we supposed to live the life that is given to us? So just focus on yourself and don’t let the responsibilities of others ruin your life. Speak up for yourself and do it because you want it, not because others expect from you. Others will go; they will live their life while putting responsibility on you. But you have to speak up for yourself, don’t allow others to control your life. You live once, so live it to the fullest.

Lay your burden down.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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