Things To Not Feel Guilty About.

“Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You are responsible for your happiness.”

1. Don’t feel guilty about choosing yourself. There is no one in the world who can understand you better than you. Being selfish for yourself is not at all bad but it’s crucial for you, for your growth and your happiness.

2. Don’t feel guilty for standing up for yourself. This is one of the problems that I have also dealt with. While standing up for myself and speaking for myself with someone close to me, I do feel guilty but it is important so that you can show others that you are not someone they can step upon. Stand up for yourself, only you can do that and don’t ever feel bad, it’s important to have respect for yourself.

3. Don’t feel guilty about letting go and moving on. I have talked about this in my previous posts. Letting go is important because people who don’t treat you well, will not treat you better if you will work harder. If they don’t care for you then, they will never do it now. Move on from the past, from the people who are best to forget.

4. Don’t feel guilty for accepting the appreciation. If you are good at it then you are. It’s the end of the discussion. Just take the compliment, people gracefully;)

5. Don’t feel guilty for choosing your happiness. You know a time comes when you just have to be selfish for yourself, you are done being selfless. Fight for your happiness and do what makes you happy. I know it’s so hard to make people understand that they are not living your life but you are so happiness should come to you not them. You are not responsible for their happiness but you are responsible for yours.

6. Don’t feel guilty about taking a break. It’s okay to be behind and it’s okay if someday you don’t feel like getting up. You are just preparing to bounce forward hard.

7. Don’t feel guilty for saying no to things that don’t feel good to you. Just because someone else likes it doesn’t mean it will be the same to you and it’s okay. Everyone is different and you should have the courage to say no to things that your guts feel are not for you.

be obsessed with yourself, people.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Inevitable.

Life humbles you as you age.

You realize how much time you wasted on nonsense.

Why is it so hard to accept rejection and why is it so hard to accept reality? Everything in life is chaos and our mind plays the biggest reason for it. I know how much I think about the future or even the next day, nothing happens, it’s just my thoughts that keep me awake at night. I am not at all an overthinking person, but adult life has made me engage in it for a while now. I never understood people who do overthinking, and say it’s so dangerous. Now I know why it is dangerous. I have learned the hard way that accepting reality is one of the important things you can do to live a peaceful life. There are things in life that are inevitable that cannot be changed and you have only two options. First, let yourself sink in the things that happen and dwell but nothing is going to change. The second one lets your mind accept that it happened now you have to move on. In life, things are going to happen, it’s compulsory to us, it is inevitable we can’t change them but we have to learn how to accept it. The attitude of saying, ‘Yes it happened now, I should not dwell on it and let’s look at the next move.’ Pain is inevitable and it will come back at every interval if people keep suffering for everything then what will happen, you can’t even imagine it. Keep the attitude of thinking about yourself, and give yourself the determination that you are going to live this life however you want. Rejections and failures are inevitable, it is going to come how much you will try to escape it. So be smart, accept those things and work your way to achieve the life you deserve, because life has moments that are inevitable.

Change is inevitable.

Even is you’re not ready for it.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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The Reality of MOVING ON!

if it’s out of your hands, it deserves freedom from your mind too.

How hard it is to let go of things that mattered to us the most and the longest. Don’t you ever wonder that after spending so much time together you just have to let go, suddenly you just have to. And letting things happen normally you don’t even realize when the distance happens, when you stop talking, everything just happens and there is no answer to when and why it happened. However, the story of moving in after that is totally opposite. Moving on doesn’t happen overnight while forgetting everything, the first step is that you remember each and every pain of things from that you have to move on. Even letting go and moving on from a bad day is so hard that forgetting about things and people that matter to you is definitely not an easy process. It’s funny how when you become an adult, it is complying in your life that you will lose friends, lose interest in so many things, have more hard days, the responsibility that you never asked for, and more things that will make you question is that really the adult life you dreamed of in your childhood. Moving on is not at all easy because in every step the flashback hits and the what-if list comes up. But soon you will understand that moving is important and amidst that, you do not even remember when life starts to get better, when you have new friends, and when you truly start living. Soon you will get the reality check of how wasteful it is to cry over something that has already happened and things will never change but that doesn’t mean it will not get better for you. However, to reach that step you need to have the reality of MOVING ON!

it’s not the goodbye that hurts, but the flashbacks that follow.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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It’s Going To Be OKAY!

There are going to be days when you are not going to be okay with everything that is happening to you and around you but you are going to have to tell yourself everything is going to be alright just so you can sleep at night and move on.

Hey there, I think it is really important that you know right now that it’s going to be OKAY. I just want to tell you that because I feel like you needed to hear that, and I really mean that. I am really proud of you. You might feel like it’s really tough, and I know it’s really tough, but please hang in there and everything is going to be okay. Trust yourself it’s just a life phase, it’s just a chapter it will pass on, and it will turn. Just please hang in there. I just want to say that overthinking will take you nowhere. You should know that every feeling you feel doesn’t need to have an answer or solution. Sometimes you need to accept what you are feeling and slowly you have to let it sink. Life is never perfect, we miss opportunities, we make mistakes, we lose our minds, and it’s okay it’s a part of the life you are living. It doesn’t show that you are failing, no, it doesn’t. Just as feelings of accomplishment or happiness make you happy at the same time feelings of sadness, and unsuccessfulness make you strong. Just like I say every time life is a process of bitter sweet bitter sweet. You need to feel and go through all the steps you can’t escape anyone and you need to accept that. Somedays are meant to teach you and somedays are meant to reflect, it’s part of life that is inevitable. Take a deep breath and say that it’s going to be OKAY!

Not going to spoil the ending for you, but it’s going to be okay.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Things you can’t make people understand.

Some people are committed to misunderstand you. Let them. Focus on yourself and only yourself.

It has been such a thing around us about how you should be able to make everyone happy and do things that people expect you to do. A long time ago, I learned how hard it is to be quiet when you want to say something but at the same time, it taught me how much peace it brings to my mind. Because you can’t make people understand if they don’t want to understand. We are so used to seeing opinions about ourselves from the eyes of others. Still, some people make others feel that their opinion about them is right. At the adult age, you will understand that you can’t make people see you how you want them to. Everyone you will meet has their opinion about you maybe it’s good or maybe it’s not your business because you should never give anyone a chance to give an opinion about yourself. What goes inside your mind only you know. And sometimes it’s very hard to make people understand that you don’t need advice for it. It’s not always that one needs advice but an assurance that mistakes happen and it’s not the end of the world. You don’t need to change yourself for others, to fit in their category of opinion about you. I know it hurts when nobody believes in you, and I won’t say it gets easier as you move on. But trust your instinct people are always going to say something about you, it’s you who need to make a goal to not care about other and remembers that there are things you can’t make people understand. Because people don’t know why we are having such a hard time, or why we are struggling so much, and there’s no one who can understand.

Don’t change yourself for someone who don’t understand you.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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When reality hits too HARD.

teach your heart to accept disappointments,

even from the people you love.

When coming back home from a very good day spent, singing on the street, jumping around but as close as the home is the feeling inside starts to change and you also don’t realize the humming of the song or when your feet become cold and stuck at one place. All these happen because when reality hits too hard the tape that holds the bubble starts tearing apart and you are left alone with no one around only your thoughts and fear that eats you up. Reality is something that no one wants to accept however the quicker you accept the reality the inevitable the better the fog of confusion and delusion starts to clear up. The realisation when your face hits the cold pillow that how much behind you are and how much you didn’t succeed today. At the end of the day, we get the chance to reflect on our day and most of the time it’s disappointing only because reality is not easy, however, we need to accept the truth of how it is and reality can’t be changed. However, it doesn’t mean your life motive is over but sometimes we need to have a reality check in between in order to stay put. Everyone is different as some accept the inevitable while some try to find out what they did wrong. Nothing is wrong it’s just that reality has its own way of shaping us and finding the real route for us. Sometimes when everything starts to be overwhelming or things might be going good but you still feel lost there is when reality needs to step up so that you can have a more clear picture of your life. Remember awful feelings may make you feel awful but these are the only feelings that can make you strong and at that time when you don’t even need them but ahead in future you will not even realize how good you are handling the situations that reality taught you back in the days and that is why it is important to accept when reality hits too hard.

And in the end, all I learned was, to be strong

Alone.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Struggling…

Every struggle in your life has shaped you into the person you are today.

Be thankful for the hard times, they can only make you stronger.

Struggling is that factor of one’s life that is not at all looked upon when talking about people’s success and even failure. The number of people who struggle every single day to meet their ends or to protect their mental health is innumerable and is ignored when we see those same people smiling and enjoying themselves because each one of them has so much to tell. Struggles are not seen in broad daylight, they crave out only when your face hits the cold pillow or when midst of chaos you feel lonely. Struggling every moment of your life and to be able to be the best version of yourself is so hard. Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors, nobody knows how many tears are shredded to even begin with a new page in life, nobody knows the amount of taunting voice that disturbs us every single time when we are happy, and nobody knows how much struggle we have done to reach there. There are always two sides to the story, one is what we let the people see and the other side is where people themselves decide what they want to see. Never ever feel that your struggles are nothing, they are proof to yourself that you have done everything in your power despite so many hurdles to not give up. Just like after every sunset there is a sunrise behind every struggle you do that leads to you being stronger. Every struggle gives you double the strength to fight against them, just remember that struggling is a moment that will pass soon just like everything else. I am so proud of you, I know you are struggling so do I but we got this, don’t worry. You need to fight and prove to yourself that you are the best and you are enough for yourself despite all the struggles.

Just because someone carries it well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Time.

One day when you look back, you will understand that everything happens for a reason. What is meant for you will be yours at the right place and right time.

I can’t believe it took me such a long time to write about time on my blog. I mean, simple things make no sense to me, I am complicated. (Sighs) Time, let’s just talk about it. Time is the only factor in one’s life that can break and join the past, present, and future of them. It is also a fear factor that keeps people from sleeping at night. When you look at it during the day, the time goes fast however, at night, when sleep is unknown to you, you can feel and hear time ticking as slowly as a turtle because everything comes knocking at the door at night. Time plays with us when we are motivated to do things, time just doesn’t fit right and when we want time it’s never there, iconic right? When people say everything comes at the right time or works at the right moment, I somehow don’t know how to think about that. However, according to me, you have to go through a hard and wrong time to let the right time come to you. It is truly said that the wrong path takes you to a very unpredictable destination that is terrifying to even begin with. However, the lessons and the strength you get from that wrong path are just necessary; they help to make the right time fit in your life. You truly care about things or value them when you know how hard the time can be to reach somewhere. Time shows us everything we need to know in order to move ahead in our lives while dealing with things that are necessary for our goals. Don’t take time too seriously and don’t think about the future because the time you have now the time which you will use now will be your future. So thinking about the future and not properly focusing now will lead to a lot of things you don’t want. Also, time will never come back so live the life you want, be happy, find your motive, your hobbies, things that make you feel happy, people that make you believe in yourself, and just find yourself.

Even the toughest days have only 24 hours.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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No matter what happens, always be YOURSELF!

You are something new in this world. Be Glad of it. Make the most of what nature gave you. You can paint only what you are. You can sing only what you are. You must be what your experiences, your environment, and your heredity have made you. For better or for worse, you must cultivate your own little garden. For better or for worse, you must play your own little instrument in the orchestra of life.

How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie.

Life becomes tougher when within the cracks we have to find ourselves where in this world there are so many shades of people that already exist. I have grown up hearing that there is absolutely no one like me in this world but sometimes we just want to accept the otherwise. The uniqueness you have, the power you have, the heart you have, and the soul you have nobody has like yours. So why not make it more unique by working on yourself rather than looking to be someone else who you are not? Since you are born or before that, there is no one like you and are something new to this world, something that you are going to add will be new, not even similar but something new. There are a lot of people residing in this world, and everyone is different not only in their physical attributes but also in the way they think and do things. What I have noticed is that it is not our fault because the world just doesn’t let us be ourselves, they just don’t want to let us be something unique because people have that mindset that if something is unique then it’s not worthy. But they forget not everyone has the guts to show their real selves because the power each one of them has is unimaginable so when everyone starts to show how powerful they are within themselves the world is definitely going to change.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to live your life, find yourself and only you can do that, you are the owner of your life, your life has been given to you so make it however you want to, once you understand yourself what you truly want there is nothing in this world that is going to stop you. Everyone is going to Ieave you but you and your shadow were, are and will always be there so why not make it the best weapon for yourself and no matter what happens, always be YOURSELF!

In the end, you only have yourself.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Don’t try too hard…It’s okay to be a loser.

Nobody realises how hard it is to always act like you’re okay. When really you’re not. It’s okay to not be okay. Remember that.

There are ample people who tell you to do hard work as much as you can now and in the future you are going to enjoy it. Don’t give up and work hard as much as you can and, so many things which are not wrong, to be honest, but why does everyone only talk about winning but not losing? It’s a life we all live and here we fail so that we can win it’s never going to be winning all the time. Hardly people when you lose say it’s okay it’s a life phase and you have to live it to move ahead. I don’t like when we always keep the expectation of winning it’s good but if things don’t go according to plan it hurts and we might become obsessed with winning which leads to giving up. But you have to keep thinking that you need to try very hard as best you can and not think about winning or losing but go with the flow and do your best trust me it will not let you have the feeling that why don’t you win. We do need a lot of people in this world who tell us that it’s okay you don’t always need to try hard just be yourself and keep working hard to satisfy yourself and to reach your goals.

Just want to say you know yourself the best and you know how hard you try every single day and I am so proud of you. At the same time, you only know how much you put in every single day, how many problems you have to go through, and every thought you fight inside your mind to not give up, and for that, I am so proud of you. If someday it’s getting too hard, stop caring about the world and forget about your goals for a specific time. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t work hard every single day you are a human who definitely deserves a break. Take a break and do nothing if you want because sometimes we need to learn and it’s mandatory that don’t try too hard…It’s okay to be a loser.

LIVE YOUR LIFE.

it’s yours anyways

don’t try to hard

it’s okay to be a loser.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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