Not starting is scarier…

Sometimes we have to stop being scared and just go for it. Either it’ll work or it won’t. That is life.

I used to think that taking the opportunity would be scarier, and entering into a new world would be impossible because I didn’t know anything. This was my mindset. However, as I grew up or was growing up, I realised that no matter how much I read theoretically, the most I will learn through the practicality of my life. Now, as an adult, if I let an opportunity go by, be it big or small, it hurts me so much because I don’t know what that opportunity would bring me in the form of a blessing. I have read about many people, and all of them talk about how they were looking for something else, and suddenly, one opportunity came, and just like that, they took it, and now they are where they were supposed to be. Now, as the realisation hit me that if I let go of the opportunity due to my fear of not getting selected, it would harm me more than being rejected after giving it a shot. Not starting is scary, which is my mindset whenever I am about to try something new. I made up my mind that I should give it a try. I don’t know how much I know, and I will not know until I try. Rather than doubting myself before even starting, I focus on what I am about to learn. Rejection teaches us a lot. I am writing it with my experience, it makes us think that at least we tried, at least we overcame our fear and went through it. It’s life, there will be many rejections, but that doesn’t make you a failure, but the strongest soldier who took the first step. Start just start, no matter how scary it looks, trust me, when you look back, you will be so proud of yourself. For you to look back and be proud, you need to start, no matter how scary it looks, it will make such a difference in your life.

Making a big life change is scary. But you know what’s scarier? Regret.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Mindset.

If you know you can do better, then do better.

It’s all the game of your mindset that leads you to win or lose…The moment I realised that I need to create a mindset for everything I do in my life is the moment everything changed in the way I look at things. It is not easy to always have a positive mindset towards things because it’s life, and it throws a lot at you. But what else can we do besides accepting it by creating a mindset? By that, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t let your emotions out, no, that’s not what I meant. What I am saying is that you need to create your mindset in a way that prepares you for the situations that will come your way. Mindset doesn’t always need to be positive, but also about how you let your emotions follow and then create your mindset to move ahead and make things right. The best advice I can give you is to do something when you want to, without worrying about the outcome. Instead, focus on creating a mindset that what you are doing is for your growth and to strengthen your mindset. When you deal with things with challenges in life, that’s how your mindset becomes strong, and you are ready for the future. Even if the result didn’t come the way you wanted, but you know in your mind that you gave your best, your mindset is ready for another challenge. It’s all about your mindset, how you handle things, how you look at things, and how you deal with them. And don’t worry about how you are going to learn how to make your mindset; it happens when you take risks, it happens when you blindly follow what you love, and the result helps you make your mindset grow. Take the risk, don’t worry about the result, because no matter what the result will be, one thing is for sure, that you are ready for the future because of your strong mindset.

A beautiful day starts with a beautiful mindset.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Search for what you love…

I hope you find what you’re looking for.

A topic that I have been looking forward to writing on. I have always admired, and still do, people who look so happy doing what they love, following their passion that brings them everything. Never in my life until I started blogging have I had any passion or things that I really love from my heart, and actually, I never thought I would find it, but here I am. Blogging is my life, it allows me to express myself and brings me comfort that nothing has yet done. I actually see myself as a lucky person who found my passion, something that I really love from my heart and admire others for the same. Getting comfort in doing things is another level of satisfaction. I have read that only a certain percentage of people in the world are lucky enough to find what they truly love. I think that the world has outlined what a particular individual should do, even if it means not loving it. But what I think in today’s time, where time is moving so fast, we need to give our all to follow our passion. If I talk about my experience, it took me time to find what I truly love because there are so many hobbies that others do, and I have tried them as well, but nothing really brought me comfort until I started writing. That’s what makes one individual different from others. I urge you all to find what you truly love, like any hobby that truly brings comfort to you from inside, something that will soak up your tears and mend your broken heart. What you truly love and what you love to do has nothing to do with others. I always say to have an attitude that you don’t care what others say if it brings you happiness, that’s all that matters, because in the end, it’s your life and you are living it.

Do what you love, love what you do.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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It’s okay to slow down.

You will find your way, even when it feels like you won’t.

I have been telling myself lately that it’s okay to slow down, and the only thing that is keeping me sane. You know when you reach a level where you are doing so much but are unable to see the result, yes, that’s where I am. I want to fly so high, but whenever I feel like I am about to touch the sky, it moves far away, and I start feeling that maybe flying high is not written in my destiny. I have been in a phase which makes me so proud to see how far I have come, but also in a phase where I am unable to be proud of myself; it feels like there is always something that pulls me back. I’m experiencing a range of emotions, but at the same time, I feel nothing; this is my standard status for so many years. And I let my emotions flow within me. If I am not feeling well mentally, then I won’t force myself to do anything, and that’s how I feel better. I always remind myself that my health is more important than anything, and if it makes me slow down, then it’s totally okay. Actually, everybody says to work hard and do it, but when it starts affecting your health, then slow down and let your emotions flow. Slowing down doesn’t mean you are behind; no, it’s all about your pace. I always remind myself to focus on my own journey and not compare it to others. It’s okay to slow down and reflect on how far you have come; it’s okay to dwell on how things didn’t go perfectly, allow all your emotions to flow; it doesn’t make you feel insane, but it will allow your mental health to be sane. Everything you are doing is perfect, even when you feel like it’s not, but at least you are trying. Life is all about making you feel all the emotions and nothing at once, so slow down if things feel too heavy, take a rest, look in the mirror and smile for how much you have held up, and if you want to cry, cry, it doesn’t make you weak but proud that you are allowing yourself to be okay.

It’s okay to grow slowly.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Priority

It’s not about “having” time.
It’s about making time.

I have realised that I can accomplish many things in a day if I have my priorities set correctly. If you have been following me for a long time, you might know that when I started blogging, I was not at all consistent and took a lot of breaks. But now it’s been almost 2 years since I have not missed a single day of posting, and I post two days a week. The reason is that I have my priority about blogging sorted out, I know I need to have my post ready, and like that, I have become so consistent that I wait for the day when I can write and upload my blog post. Right now, I am too busy, but I am working on a proper schedule on how I am going to do so many things in a day. I learned that giving priority to everything that I know I need to do will make everything happen properly without me stressing out about how I will do it. The number of times I have told myself that I am not going to manage everything, but I always do, because I know I want to do it all. Keeping your priorities straight by focusing on just yourself and things you want to do really helps in living life as an adult. Hustle is another name for adult life, so we need to hustle and work hard today for the future, but that doesn’t mean you have to spend the entire time doing it. Make a priority list of things that need to be done first, and how much time it will allow you to manage your time properly. You are your priority as well as your time, please learn how to maintain and use it properly because once the time passes by, it won’t come back. You do anything you want by setting your priority straight to the goal that you want to achieve. Be it anything, once you know your priority, everything works out well.

Make yourself a priority.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Some random thoughts…

We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in. – Ernest Hemingway

My life has been in that phase where I am afraid to move on, while on the other hand, I am moving on and living an adult life. The thing is that I have yet to have a realisation, I think I have been in an auto mode for a long time, and that is the reason I am unable to grasp and actually accept my new adult life. When something happens, it happens so fast, and you don’t even get a chance to adjust, while on the other hand, the plan you have made and are waiting for takes such a long time. This is what we call the unpredictability of life. I have learned so far that someday I am not going to like how my life is going, while other days I will feel happy, and that’s okay. I just know that I will never give up and I will achieve the dream that I have been dreaming of for a long time. You have to start somewhere to reach the place that you actually want. Don’t feel heartbroken if life is not going the way you want because it won’t in the start, but that start will help you reach where you always wanted. I think life throws challenges because it wants to make us stronger to hold ourselves for a long time. I am actually speaking from my own experience, I have been through a winding road in my life that I can’t accept that I actually crossed it and am now on the other winding road, but if I compare, I have actually become so patient as well as strong, maybe because I know I have dealt enough to know what I should do. Just want to tell you that don’t give up, you are more than capable of anything you want and don’t regret anything. You did your best and still are doing, and trust me, ahead you are going to feel how strong you have become in managing life challenges.

Don’t compare yourself to others. Be like the sun and the moon and shine when it’s your time.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Friends at Different Stages of Life…

True friendship isn’t about being inseparable. It’s about being separated and nothing changes.

Just imagine you are sitting with your friends in the canteen during your lunch break and discussing your future and where you all will be in the next ten years, and you promise each other that you will be together in every step of your life. Now, ten years later, you find yourself alone doing something totally different while your other friends are doing something else. And that, my friend, is the reality of life. You never thought that one day the friends you used to share your bench with would now be so far away, living their lives while you are living yours. That’s what we call the different stages of life that everyone goes through. Nobody stays at the same stage because everyone has their own choice and their own path in life. One of your friends is getting married, one is moving to a different country, and one is opening their own business, while you are probably thinking about your future. Friends who share the same conversations every day are now living at different stages of their lives. Why does nobody talk about how lonely it feels trying to find the right path by yourself? It is crazy to see myself and my friends living a full adult life. Whenever I talk or think about my friends, I feel like we truly grew up so fast from canteen talk to adult talk, and now we stand at different stages of our lives. What hurts the most is that we will never be sitting and chatting happily in the canteen again, and we will never be children again. But we did make beautiful memories that all will cherish forever, and that’s the power of memories; whenever we want, we can reminisce about them. Now, wherever I look at my friends, I feel incredibly proud and happy, as they were the same people who used to make me laugh and make my life better. Cheers up, people, we might be at different stages of life, but the life we lived, the memories we created, will forever be there in our hearts.

Friendship is the purest form of love.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Rejection…

To all the doors that closed on me: I’m coming back to buy the building.

I think failure and rejection are never talked about enough; everybody tells us about success, but nobody talks about how to deal with failures and rejections. And I am here to share my thoughts on how to deal with it. I will start by going straight to the point: yes, rejection hurts the most, and it will pinch you every now and then. You may seem fine upfront, but the rejection will be eating you from the inside. So here’s what I have to say: you are allowed to fail, you are allowed to start again, and you are allowed to take a break. Never ever compare yourself to others, everyone has their own journey. Maybe you are meant to be mentally stronger to enter your phase of success. Even after becoming successful, you can experience failure because it’s a part of your life. Life is all about rocky roads, one day you will feel like you have achieved everything, while another day you will feel like you are back at the start again. Whenever I take up a new challenge, I always say to myself that I believe in myself, whatever the result will be, I will give my best, and whatever happens, happens for a reason. You need to build up your courage by trying again, by examining your failure, and rather than dwelling on what has already happened, why not focus on improving yourself and becoming stronger? This way, when you do it all over again, you can do it better, and you’ll actually feel the difference. Have the courage to believe in yourself, and failure is a part of your life. Remember, just a part of your life, it doesn’t define your life, but the courage to take that failure and lead the way towards success will define your life. And never ever listen to others and never give them the right to say anything about you or your life, it’s your life and you know how capable you are of everything. So rejection is nothing to be embarrassed about, but learn from it and make it your strength to do better.

Rejection is the most powerful motivation.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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It will happen…

I do not know how it will happen but I do know that it will happen.

My life has been crazy right now, but in a good way. I am at that stage of my life where I always used to dream, and now I am here, actually working and living in it. Not just that, but I have taken up so many challenges that the mini me would have never thought of because of how self-conscious I was back then. I am always so ready to take up challenges, and guess what, I am not even a little bit afraid of how I am going to do it, but I want to experience it and learn from it. And this habit of mine has taken me to places which I always thought would be out of my dreams, but now I am actually living it. What I have realised is that no matter how tough it looks, it will happen, and you will probably feel wondering how it happened, and you are actually living it. I believe that working on your passion will definitely lead you to the path that once felt impossible. It will take time, but speaking from my personal experience, someone who didn’t even think that what she is doing right now would be even 1 per cent possible, but it happened because I never let go of my passion and believed in myself. The advice I am giving to you is no matter how impossible it looks and how much you are afraid, take that challenge and do it, at least you will get to experience it as well as learn, which is more important than not doing anything. The important thing I have learned is that from doing only you are going to learn; if you want to go big, then you need to do it irrespective of the result. How would you know how capable you are unless you try it? If you want to achieve more, then you need to test yourself by taking up challenges that seem impossible, but that’s how you are going to learn and be ready to take on more challenges ahead. So, trust yourself; it will happen, and in a way that will really make you appreciate taking that step and making it happen. 

Maybe you should stop overthinking and just trust the way life happens.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Book Review: I Let You Go by Clare Mackintosh

The amount of time I have heard people talk about this book, especially the middle plot twist, is what made me pick this book right away. The thriller book I am talking about is I Let You Go by Clare Mackintosh. This book is about a mother, Jenna Gray, who, in a tragic accident, lost her son, Jacob. She is not able to cope with being in a house filled with memories of her son, so she decided to move to a small cottage on the Welsh coast. At the beginning, she started feeling better; however, suddenly her haunting past secrets seemed to follow her there.

The book is divided into two parts as well as two points of view. One, we have Jenna’s point of view from the first person and then the detective working on the case from the third person. I won’t lie, it took me some time to get the hang of different pov’s. I can’t really talk about the characters as there are spoilers pretty much in it. But the characters are not what we expect them to be, and it’s obvious that it’s a thriller book.

I went into this book thinking something absolutely different, and you might as well, but OMG, the middle plot twist. What was even that? I don’t think anyone could get it because it is so distinct and extraordinary. The plot twist happened so randomly that I read that again and again in order to understand what happened. There are many suspects which make it impossible to guess the plot twist. The plot is definitely confusing as there are two points of view, and the author did a great job of adding elements in a way that we can’t get the plot twist.

The storyline, as I said, is something totally different because I felt it was mostly romance, with thriller being a sub-genre. I think that the book was a little long, as most of the time there was just romance and not any thriller. I had to make sure that I was reading a thriller, not a romance book. Some detective parts felt unnecessary as they mostly focused on romance rather than solving the case.

The plot twists and the story are pretty good for a thriller book, as it gave me a headache, but the romance part killed it for me because I felt that it was unnecessary at some point, which made the book feel long. But the plot twists are really good, so maybe give it a try.

Rating: 3/5(please check trigger warnings)

Side Note: I just want to clarify that this is entirely my opinion; you are free to love this book, and I am free to give my opinion on this book. I would be very happy if you loved this book, but please do not take this review to heart; it is okay to have different tastes. Thank You.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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