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Letting Go…

“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what’ could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor & move on.”

Tupac Shakur.

The hardest feeling I felt was when I had to let go of the ice cream that fell on the ground, making one more plus point in my clumsy diary. But on a serious note, why is it so hard to let off of something? Why do we have to think about it so much and why does it hurt so much? Honestly holding on to something that gives you no meaning yet just because you don’t want to waste all the time spent together, all those memories, and all those ahead moments where you both will pass each other like strangers, and trust me I know that feeling very well, it hurts. When we grow up a lot of things change in one’s life and it does affect various relationships as well. And in those times I have learned that a relationship is all about give and take if you are putting your hand forward then they need to do the same both parties need to put in an equal amount of effort. The most shocking thing when a person decides to let go of it is not only because they are not feeling any love but because everything changed, they changed and just thinking about what actually changed there is no answer. You are the same but that person is not the one you know. Letting go of something has the same feeling as when we feel tears leaking out of our eyes in the middle of the night just because our heart is sad but we don’t know the reason behind it. I have realized that letting go doesn’t mean you stop loving them or greeting them but because you stop pitting yourself, you tell yourself to move on, you let yourself get free from all the disturbing thoughts about them, and you just want yourself to be happy and letting go is the solution.

Closure happens right after you accept that letting go and moving on is more important than protecting a fantasy of how the relationship could have been.

Sylvester McNutt.

Keep Smiling, you are loved ~ MA

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Guilt…

THE TRUTH IS,

unless you let go,

unless you forgive yourself,

unless you forgive the situation,

unless you realize the situation is over,

you cannot move forward.

Dr. Steve Maraboli.

The Guilt of not enjoying the moment to the fullest, the guilt of not crediting myself enough, the guilt of not saying how proud I am of myself, the guilt of living on the opinions of others, the guilt of making decisions depending upon the others, and the guilt of not forgiving myself for making wrong decisions like how much we have to capture ourselves with guilt. The feeling of guilt is far more worse than hate because someday hate might go but the guilt that has strangled our hearts is very hard to free. At this time I have learned to live the moments to the fullest and be happy in what I am living because those moments and memories are never going to come back and the feeling of guilt of not enjoying the moment to the fullest and wishes that we could go back and maybe live more will eat up our head. When we will learn to free ourselves from the guilt of the bad decisions that we made, it happened you don’t need to be thinking about that let go of it and make your present and future better than what you have imagined. Forgive yourself for things that you can’t control, forgive yourself for things that you didn’t do wrong, forgive yourself for those things that are not your responsibility, and forgive yourself for choosing yourself over others. Unless you won’t let the past guilt go you can’t move forward is something that I have learned so let go of the past and live in the present. The feeling of guilt is something that will never leave us but we need to learn how to process it and don’t let ourselves dwell in it. Let go of the guilt and make space for better things to enter your life and remind yourself to do better the next time rather than guilt about it.

It’s your life don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for living it your way.

There is another post of mine on GUILT if you want please check that out as well by clicking over here.

Keep Smiling, you are loved ~ MA.

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TIMING!

When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against wind, not with it.

Henry Ford

One thing I have learned in life is that time waits for no one, what you want to do DO IT NOW otherwise it will be too late. Being able to do everything at a proper time is something we can’t control but being able to use it for proper things is something we can control. Time is changing in a blur, seasons are changing like clothes and some know what they are doing, and some are still confused. I am definitely the latter one but I do believe that timing of life is something we need to trust. Like when I started my blog I was dreading and looking for the perfect time to start but I soon realized that there is no such thing as perfect timing it’s me who has to make it my perfect time and here I am happily in my blogging journey. Now this made me realize that if I didn’t start at that time then I know I would still be looking for that perfect time which might never come because I didn’t take the first step in making my time worthy. If we did hard work and were consistent in our work then definitely time will be in our favor. Growing up till today a lot of time passed by but in those times I learned so much and ahead as well a lot of things are waiting for me to explore. People say with time people change but I want to say that with time you need to reflect on your work, how far you have gotten, what are the things that you did and what are the things that you need to complete. Time is not waiting for anyone and nor do we have to wait for the perfect opportunity just do it at the moment, start it where you can, and trust yourself and the timing will be perfect for you. If you think that right now the timing is bad I’ll start later but do it now because the timing is never going to be perfect you have to make it perfect. Let go of things that have passed and start over without wasting time and it will be worth it for you.

The moment you realize how important time is, you entire perspective will change.

Keep Smiling, you are loved ~ MA

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FUTURE!

And suddenly, you know…It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.

Nothing really scares me as much as my future. To be honest in the past I never seriously thought anything about my future. I was never really afraid of what path I am going to choose and so many questions that now haunt me. At this point, I am really afraid because time is ticking and I am not making any decisions. There is a thing that I want to do but still, I am not feeling 100% sure about it and this is how I am. I know I need to give it a try and then only I am going to be confident about it. The future is really a scary thing you don’t know anything about it, and you don’t know if the path you are taking is even right, but that is where the point of belief in yourself comes from. I know I just need to do it and just go where my heart is telling me to. And I hope that whatever you and I make the decision even if you or I are not happy about it still we are going to learn from it a lot. From today onward I am going to make the decision of what I feel is right and even though I may not feel confident about it but somewhere I just know maybe it’s my future…I just need to trust myself and believe in the magic of new beginnings.

Two months of break finally came to an end and to be honest a lot of things happened in that period I finished taking my graduation exam and now I have a very new start in front of me in what I want to do. It’s scary that all of my friends are already on their path and here I am not knowing anything about what I want to do. ‘Sigh.’ To be honest I am afraid that the path I want to take is really for me. Is that really my destination because what I will choose today will affect a major part of my future? So these thoughts are really scaring me. But I know I need to take the first step and the risk that only will make my future stronger.

And now I’ll do what’s best for me!

Keep smiling, you are loved ~ MA

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Finding Courage.

you feel unsettled because you know you are meant for more.

Everything that we want to do is held by something or other, maybe in the form of worry, overthinking about choices that we don’t know are right or wrong, discouragement, and whatnot have filled our mind with the fear of not taking the step. For so many years our hearts have desired so many things yet we are unable to take the step because we are afraid of things that don’t even concern us but others. The decision you have to take will never concern or harm you if it’s for you or if it’s in your favor but we the whole life just think what is the thought of others for us which even means breaking our own hearts. You allowed yourself to courageously think about the future you want, yet you never run behind it. Why? Just so after everything ends, without you even trying what is the outcome that came in your favor nothing? Hear me out this is your year what has ever held you back cut out all the ties from it and run behind your dreams, take a deep breath, keep your eyes wide open and whisper yes and run behind those things that you deserve, and trust me, in the end, it’s your courage that is going to help you survive. Dream as much as you want but have the courage to achieve those dreams without fearing anything. If you decided to follow the path you have longed for, you will have the courage and strength that you will not find but it will be the other way around because getting ready for something is a big decision to make, and if you have done that then I’m so proud of you:). You have to get through vulnerability to find the courage and to be brave but once you get those things you have to put yourself first and find that courage that has hidden behind your fear for so many years and chase after things you always wanted by finding courage.

The courage it takes to leave behind what’s not for you anymore is the same courage that will help you find your way to what is.

Keep Smiling, you are loved ~ MA

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Worries!

Breath, darling.

This is just a chapter.

It’s not your whole story.

S.C. Lourie.

I was never the overthinking kind of person, never did I overthink what I want to become in the future, and never did I overthink when I waste my whole day doing absolutely nothing “Sigh.” I know you all will be thinking that I have changed now but that is totally wrong actually I am proud of myself, now that I think about it I never overthink like never my friends always say why are you so chill and to be honest I also don’t know maybe it’s my biggest flex “smirk.” To be honest, my mother is the biggest reason why worrying and overthinking don’t affect me because she always says “worrying about things will do nothing but will prevent you from achieving something”. Those words are like magic to me. You know you need some person to tell you that and the calmness after hearing those words from my mother helps me a lot. And I wanted to share those words with you I probably won’t be able to help to lessen your worry but I hope that maybe my trying did like 0.001 percent something and if it did I will be over the moon. I was reading a book the other day on worry and the way the book has conveyed today’s generation being surrounded by worrying without even thinking how torn they are getting from inside astonished me so much. Worrying about the future will not do any good to you, it will only destroy your today which is way more important. In the book, I learned that live for today, and at the end of the day quit all the worries of today and start the next day as your new life. Try to be patient with yourself and solve your problems by keeping your mind fresh and without worries. Because worries are going to come in every step of your life that doesn’t mean you will be drowning in them, learn to solve them and learn to control your mind from worries, I know you can do it:)

Thoughts are not FACTS!

Keep Smiling, you are loved ~ MA.

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Hustlers!

People will let you down

but your hustle won’t.

Stay working.

The sound of the word hustlers is as good as the definition of it. But unfortunately, the meaning of it is quite misunderstood by people in many ways. When we want to achieve something, be it big or small we have to run behind it like hustlers you have to reach there and grab that thing by yourself, no opportunity comes your way without us trying it. To be honest I love those people who have the power to change their dream into reality despite many people telling them they can’t. It is truly said that the enjoyment of achieving something is earned when you really worked hard behind it, the satisfaction and the smile of yours truly define the inner hustle you have done to achieve that thing. I have heard somewhere that if you have the determination and courage to achieve something nothing in this whole universe can stop you from it. Hustlers are those people who would challenge their inner self in accomplishing something, going out there and working on the opportunities until they reach the end, having that courage and determination of walking through tough times and the biggest thing to trust oneself in what one is doing. Beat all the odds, hustle, and work hard 24/7/365 and become that person that you have always dreamed about. I believe in you and trust me you are the greatest project you’ll ever work on. While blogging for a year now I have understood that if I want to improve my blog, I have to improve myself and keep working hard like a hustler because there is nothing one can’t achieve if one hustles every single moment of their life. The race in life is not with somebody but with yourself, how long and how many times you will get up and hustle makes you more strong in yourself. Doing hustle makes a person believe in themselves as they are continuing their hard work and believe they can and will do it. Just think of it like running behind the bus you know you will make it with just a little push and you will reach the bus similarly for getting somewhere you have to be hustlers!

We tend to forget that baby steps still move us forward.

Keep smiling, you are loved ~ MA.

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I’m Proud of You!

If nobody told you today.

I am so proud of you, you made it this far.

Never give up.

I believe in you.

You are loved.

What is that sentence that is very easy to pronounce but very hard to say and why it is saying that you are proud of someone? Learning to make people proud and make yourself proud is one heck of a journey. I have always said that nobody deserves to know what you have been through except you and nobody should have any right to judge anyone for what they are doing. Being proud of yourself after going through so much, and continuing to smile through the toughest pace you are doing is absolutely great. Life has been quite a rollercoaster when it starts to make sense, I would be lying if I said that I have achieved those things in which I am proud of myself. I am a big introvert, and the lack of confidence in myself has left me with no chance to be proud of myself. But as my shell started to open up when I started to understand myself, I knew what I am capable of and learned that it’s okay if I am not perfect at it, at least I am trying. Back then I used to run away from the opportunity that used to come my way but now even if I don’t know anything if I didn’t win I can proudly say that I tried. Being able to tell yourself how proud you are of not giving up, being the shield for yourself during hardships, and having patience is the best feeling in the world. The sigh of relief after doing something that we might not think we could do just hits differently. One of the biggest lessons I have learned was that big things are not achieved at once but one day at a time you have to work hard and then the result of your hard work will blossom in a way that it will be easy to say that you are proud of yourself.

I’m gonna just say one thing, in short, we are literally strong. We’ll find a way if there’s no way. Let’s draw the map the whole map again so no worries will stop us from being strong, we will find our own way as usually we always have.

Someday, you will meet the happiest version of you and it will be worth it.

Keep Smiling, you are loved ~ MA

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Personality!

Can you remember who you were,

before the world told you who you should be?

Tell me about yourself? The question that I am most afraid of because it is the question that I know the answer to but at the same time I don’t. The thing that I dislike most is that when I can’t express myself in words I know the answer but it just can’t get on the tip of my tongue honesty is the most hated feeling. Personality, according to me, is the most difficult thing to describe through words it’s more like the time you spend with someone you start to understand theirs as well as your personality. It is also true that one’s personality differs from person to person but it is all the same person with different shades. You can’t fake personality because as you begin to be with someone your true personality and aura start to show which is the biggest sign of finding who the real friend is and who is not yours. It takes a lot of time to open up to somebody because in this world it is not easy to trust somebody with your personality because believe me you are one of a kind. Personality is truly a core for gaining the confidence in doing what is best for you no matter how you look if you are good at something your personality definitely stands out. It doesn’t matter if nobody understands your personality, you don’t need to change it for anyone because you are perfect the way you are. Remember who you are to the world is how you show them. You have full control over how you want the world to know you, you have the choice of it so choose wisely on how you want the world to know you. The most important thing I learned is to not shrink just because you want others to be comfortable because if you will compromise just once you have to do it every damn time which is no justice to yourself. Don’t forget your personality defines you, it helps you to stop caring about others and start trusting yourself, your own thoughts, and your own opinions and be the best version of your own personality.

Life isn’t about finding yourself.

It’s about creating yourself.

Keep smiling, you are loved ~ MA

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Wanderer…

She was free in her wildness. She was a wanderer, a drop of free water. She belonged to no man and to no city.

Roman Payne.

We are given this life to find a motive and live upon it. However, it is not easy I feel like a long-lost wanderer that is roaming around the world to find my motive in life. What exactly are wanderers? According to me, your race of yours in finding your real identity in this world that sometimes feels like a black hole that is swallowing you deep inside it. I think I come under one of the oldest wanderers because my motive doesn’t seem to find me or vice versa. I have also been a curious and restless child about things that I shouldn’t be concerned about at a certain age but those were my childhood things now I just need to focus on finding myself in this world where so many heterogeneous minds exist. Being a wanderer for a long time makes you afraid of getting confused because it truly says that being lost is okay rather than being confused. After all, the lost soul would find themselves but a confused soul might never. Having confusion in life about so many things makes me afraid because the feeling of not finding any motive for things that I like is making me question myself. But I think at this point in life I am going to be so confused but I think I have reached somewhere where things start to make sense. The wanderer is supposed to be a wildflower that looks beautiful but can’t be controlled and are just like you who has the soul of the boundless sky, a free spirit like the wind, and wild like the ocean. I was never that person who likes to come out of my comfort zone but as I grew up I understood that if you are in your comfortable and stable zone then you are in the wrong place. The most fun comes when you do things out of your comfort zone, being a free spirit with risk is an experience that makes life more adventurous. I want to tell you all that if you are feeling hesitant about coming out of your zone and taking a risk then let me tell you that you will never regret it, believe me because being a wander and finding things on your own is a whole new experience for being able to find yourself raw and real.

If we were meant to stay in one place, we’d have roots instead of feet.

Keep smiling, you are loved ~ MA

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