Be Selfish!

Why is it bad to be selfish for ourselves? Why does everyone make us feel bad for choosing ourselves? In life, we can’t have all the things. If we want something, we need to sacrifice other things. However, why does everyone in the world want us to sacrifice what we truly want so that what they want can be achieved? I never understood the concept of living our lives not in our way but in the way others want. The world makes us feel so guilty for choosing ourselves, as if we are abandoning others, which is a serious crime. Why can’t a person live their life in the way they want? The people who are close to us feel that we don’t deserve happiness or freedom. Why does everything need to be done in the comfort of others? Why can’t we just do it without thinking about what others want? Why is being selfish seen as a crime? Why do we need to think about others before making a decision? Why can’t we just make the decision and live it? Why do we have to answer to others? Why is giving freedom seen as losing dominance over us by the world? Why does everything need to be explained when it comes to us living our lives?

There are so many whys when it comes to us making decisions about the life that we are meant to live. I feel like everyone wants us to be selfless in everything, but when it comes to us, nobody wants to be selfless for us. So in the end, we are the only ones who suffer the most. So why not ignore everyone? Maybe it will hurt them, but what about our pain, our hurt? Nobody sees it. So just do the heck you want, live the life, be selfish for yourself. Do what you want to do, don’t listen to others. In the end, the only thing that will be left is the regret of not fighting or the memories that made the life worth fighting for. So be selfish, it’s your life, and believe me, doing what you love is what life is all about.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Quietness!

As I grew older, I realised that there is noise even in quietness. The more I grew up, the more I started liking being alone. In my childhood, I used to believe that being alone was not good at all; however, now I like to spend my time with myself the most. No matter how much social battery I have, I will always need time for myself. It’s actually a privilege to be able to love and understand yourself, and that only happens when we spend time with our thoughts. There is always a voice in quietness, the voice of our inner self that guides us on what and how to do. You can only love others if you start with yourself, and for that, you need to understand what happens in the quietness. I am always someone who will zone out in the loudest crowd. I don’t know why the voice in me is so loud that it never allows the outside voice to reach inside. We can see it as a metaphor too. It’s all in us; if we want to achieve something, we need to trust ourselves and just do it. Don’t let the outside voice take away your inner voice. You can be as loud to yourselves about things that you want in your life. You need to understand that there is a voice in your heart that knows you better than anyone, that stands with you when the world points at you, and that voice is trust and belief. There is so much you can find in quietness, even yourself. It’s mandatory to look after yourself, to be selfish for yourself, to find the voice that describes just you. In quietness, you find yourself, and you start seeing yourself the way you want rather than from the world’s point of view. So being in peace, in quietness, is a way to listen to the inner voice that best describes you.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Focus on yourself!

You get what you focus on so focus on what you want.

Focus on yourself and what you truly want. From our childhood, we were always told what we would be when we grew up. When we grow up, we start to realise the meaning of life, ourselves and what we truly want. Everything changes. When we realise that there is a voice in us that is totally different from others, we need to understand it. When we reach a certain age, we come to realise ourselves, and we also face insecurities that others love to point out. In the beginning, we will hate our insecurities, we will try to hide them; however, with time, as we grow, we understand that no one matters but us. We start to love ourselves, we start to embrace our insecurities, and in the end, no one matters but us. I feel like it’s such an underrated and rare feeling about starting to love ourselves, choose ourselves and just be the bird flying with the biggest wings ever. Focus on yourself, this is your life, and you have every right to live it the way you want. When you choose yourself, many things will be left behind, and that’s okay because you are doing it for yourself. We live in a world where we will have thousands of people who have an opinion on us, but what we need to do is just let go. Focus on yourself, your mental health, your wellbeing, you being healthy is most important. Life becomes peaceful when we choose ourselves, do what we really love and let our inner self be at ease. So just do what really makes you happy, don’t let others ruin your happiness because you choose yourself. The world will always say something, so why not just focus on yourself and do what you really love, because what matters is your happiness and nothing else. True happiness and relief come from doing things that our heart desires, so just focus on yourself!

Focus on yourself don’t get lost in other people.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Is life this serious?

Don’t think too much.

The question that changes in the situation of lives. I love to watch interview videos of old people and the advice they give. Among all the videos, the most common one was to live life to the fullest, because we will regret not living in the moment. When I think about life, I see it as a process that continues. There will be sadness, but also, after that, happiness is going to wait for us. If we take life too seriously, then when are we going to live? We can’t be waiting for life to give us the chance, but we have to make it in the moment. What I feel is that life is not that serious; it’s how we make it that matters the most. At this point in my life, I have seen many situations and overthought a lot, but in the end, everything went well. But overthinking takes a heavy toll on my health, which is hard to recover from. So whenever I come across a situation, I try not to overthink it but trust my abilities. The thing that I don’t like is regret that someday in my life ahead I will have the regret that I didn’t live my life the way I wanted to, just because I overthink a lot or take my life too seriously. We can’t bring time back, so we take life too seriously, just thinking about problems, and not enjoying living in the moment, which kind of destroys the whole purpose of life. It’s all on you, how you analyse the situation, and don’t let your heart be closed to the world. Open yourselves up to the world; there is so much to enjoy, it’s our mind that is stopping us from letting us live, but create that mindset, and everything will be fine.

Don’t worry about what you can’t control.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Bravery

She was powerful, not because she wasn’t scared but because she went on so strongly, despite the fear.

I always used to think that bravery means not crying, being strong and never overthinking. However, I understood that this is the perception of humans’ means of being brave, and according to me, it’s totally absurd. Being able to not show your emotions is totally inevitable as we are humans, and it’s meant to be there. Emotions are some of the most powerful things to exist in humans that are meant to come out; what we need to understand is how to handle them. At every step, we are afraid because nobody can predict the future, so it’s totally normal to be afraid. However, we begin the journey and move forward with it because of our bravery to just do it. Bravery means being able to do it irrespective of thousands of fears. Bravery means having a breakdown and then showing up just because that’s what you really are. Bravery means being afraid of new things and then taking on the challenges to accomplish them. Bravery doesn’t come from being strong but from being able to handle emotions, create a mindset, trusting your capabilities, challenging your fears and knowing that you will handle everything. Crying was always seen as a sign of weakness, but it’s not absolutely wrong to cry and let our emotions flow. When we accept everything about ourselves and understand it, only then can we love ourselves. Freedom always comes when we face the fear, be brave, just do it. Nobody knows how to do everything at first; we all face the fear, be brave, and slowly learn to do it. The thing that I admire and want is my courage to do things. I was an introverted child with so much fear in myself, and now I have built myself in a way that I do so many things even with fear. I complain, I get afraid, I could feel my hands shaking, and my heart beating fast, and still I do it because I know if I don’t do it now, if I don’t feel the fear, then I won’t be doing it ever. And this scares me the most, that just because I was afraid, I stepped down. So be brave, face the fear and just do it.

Let it be hard.. Let it be scary. And then do it anyway.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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The Silence after realising… (Poem)

The silence after realising

That no matter how I try, nothing changes

With so many expectations

Waving on my mind

Aren’t we supposed to live this life?

The silence after realising

That the world is a race

I am always stuck in a maze.

Is it bad to be different from others

Or maybe the world doesn’t appreciate wisdom.

The silence after realising

That life is full of thorns

And I am trying to bloom within like a rose

Red, imperfectly perfect and beautiful within.

The silence after realising

No one is there for you except yourself,

So pick yourself up and be the light that shines through.

The silence after realising

That whatever the world says,

You always follow what your heart whispers!

-wordsbyher

Another day, another poem. I don’t know how I feel about this one. I think I can do better. But anyway, sometimes being flawed is way better and a way of life.

I hope you like it. If you want, you can share your thoughts!

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Random Thoughts…

It’s the little things, always.

I am someone who would sit for hours just looking outside and thinking about my life. And this has been happening a lot lately. A thought ran through my mind about how much my life has changed, and for the better. In childhood, I literally wouldn’t have imagined myself being where I am right now. Honestly, I am too grateful to be here and to be able to do things that I imagined myself not being able to. When I think about how fast my life has changed, I still can’t believe it. Doing something that once was impossible feels so great, especially for someone like me who thought that I was not good at anything. When I even read my old blog posts, I can see how much I have grown. Once what I talked about happened, and now what I am talking about, I will come back to read and feel nostalgic about my past. So many random thoughts keep coming into my mind all the time, especially about myself and my growth. I love to think about my life every now and then, and to be honest, it brings me joy thinking about how much I have grown. Definitely, there are many things that I wouldn’t like to have in my life; however, I am grateful for every small thing. It’s always the small things that make me fully happy and grateful. I don’t know why, but I have been noticing small things bring me more joy, maybe because it’s always the same small things that make a huge difference. I always try to do better and better so that my confidence and my courage keep me at ease. These kinds of thoughts come to my mind when I am deeply lost in my thoughts, and I need to jot them down so that I know my feelings. This post is one of them, and I know many more are to come.

for your own peace, let things be.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Live.

It’s the little things, always.

Just live! That’s the best advice I got, actually, I understood it by myself. Life is meant to have times when everything is going fantastically, and at some point, I will reach my lowest, and perhaps for the longest time. And amidst that, I need to learn to live. I need to understand that life is like that, and I need to learn how to live with it. There is so much happening in my life, it’s all chaotic; however, whenever I feel like it’s getting too much, I just move back and take my time by doing nothing, by detaching myself, and just being ignorant of everything. Taking tension about small things will make my life unlivable, which I won’t even want for my worst enemy.  I want to enjoy my life, and that will happen when I make it possible. Life outside will be peaceful if it is within me. And I want that, I am sure everyone wants that. So, for that, we need to understand that life is a cycle of happiness and sadness, and it goes on. But we shouldn’t doubt whether we can handle it or not. We can do it, just take time and a few lessons to learn. Also, we shouldn’t allow small things to ruin the moments that make us breathe and make us feel that life is worth living for. Living is so important, we are born to live, and I know till now we all are surviving and trying to find the moments where we can live. We often think that after surviving, we will finally live, but that’s not the way. Actually, we need to live in small moments, find happiness in moments and just live life. Life definitely humbles you; it teaches you to stop chasing big things and find happiness in small things. Don’t try to find moments to live; actually, try to make the moments livable for you.

More life. More love. More memories.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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It’s okay.

Hey, its okay.

These two words are so powerful that they make everything better for me. It’s okay for everything basically, every mistake, every emotion, every small thing. It’s okay if a mistake is made; you don’t need to put pressure on yourself. It’s very common to fear that everything will now be over after making a mistake. But that’s not like it; nobody is perfect, however experienced one is, mistakes are inevitable. Reassurance is so important, and nobody does it; it’s you who has to do it for yourself. It’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them. Everything in the end works out perfectly because a mistake doesn’t mean everything is lost or finished. I tell myself this sentence so many times, and it definitely gives me the courage to handle it smoothly without compromising my mental health. Nothing is ever bigger than my mental health, and I need to protect it. Mistakes are inevitable, but how we handle them is crucial. It comes with time, where we get used to knowing how to correct it. It’s okay for literally everything; we as humans are meant to live a life that we enjoy. Putting pressure on mental health will do nothing good except that it will make everything worse. Take time, look at how the mistake can be fixed and just go with the flow. It’s going to be alright, every situation passes away, and we know we can handle it. Just don’t make a huge deal out of it, understand it and then smoothly work through it. Tell yourself it’s okay, everything is going to be fine. Life is like that; moments pass away, and we learn how to live through them. So whatever is happening in your life, I hope it’s all good, but if you are unable to express yourself. I am here telling you that it’s okay, everything happens for a reason, just be brave, have courage, and everything will be okay.

You’re not always fine, and that’s okay.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Another perspective of time!

Time really has a way of showing us what really matters.

This thought came when I was talking to my colleague, who has been working for a long time, and realised that time is different for everyone. When I am starting something new and fresh, others have been dealing with it for a long time. Where I have been learning now, they have already learned their lessons a long time ago. I was in awe seeing that one day I will be there too, maybe assisting my juniors and reminiscing about my past or how I started my journey. I love talking to people and knowing how they started and what they felt, and how they are feeling now. Time is such a funny thing; the second as time passes, everything becomes past, and we are moving forward. I feel like I started way too late, maybe because when I look at others who have spent so much time in one place, it makes me think, Will I be able to do that. Time really teaches us to grow and expand in a lot of ways. As we move forward, we encounter various perspectives on time. We see ourselves grow, learn new things, acquire experiences, age, and change physically and emotionally. Amidst this, we learn to love ourselves. When I look at myself now, I can hardly believe I am the same awkward person I was as a child. However, I’ve since taken on tasks that I never imagined I could accomplish, because everything seemed daunting at the time, but now it no longer scares me. Time changes everything; it makes things better as well as we see the worst of everything, but it also heals. I am someone who needs time to calm myself down, to heal myself and to let myself know that everything is going to be fine. I love to absorb things around me so much and think about how different it would be 10 years ago and how different it will be after 10 years. It amazes me to see what things time brings with itself, as well as some that have stayed frozen.

Time takes us where we need to be

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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