Don’t Look Back.

Don’t look back. You’re not going that way.

In my life, I have reached that stage where I have gained confidence, where I have learned to believe in myself, and I have finally started to learn how to handle my insecurities. And this happened because I made myself and my mind strong. However, there are moments when I feel my insecurities getting the best of me but I know how to handle them.

The way I have learned is by not letting myself look at my past mistakes as mistakes, but rather as my learning points. I believe we should only look back to see how far we have come. Sometimes we dwell so much in our past and its mistakes that we forget that the entire present and future are there to live through. In life, we have a lot of moments, many of them are about learning, which definitely makes us feel bad about ourselves; however, that’s all the moments that make us strong, as much as we are fighting and still standing strong.

We have to live in our present; we don’t have to dwell on our past, nor do we have to think too much about our future. It always works out, maybe in a hard way, but it works out, and that’s what is important. The present is the most important time in our lives as we fight through so much just to live in the moment, so don’t just look back and feel how much better you could have done. Believe me, you tried your best, and maybe life wanted you to be tougher for better experiences.

I always have the motto to never look back and regret things because that only makes me feel horrible about myself and how I was unable to achieve things. And always, that was a phase for me to grow, and now, when I look at myself, I feel so proud because the things that made me doubt are now just mere things. Now I can achieve more because of my stronger mindset, and I am so happy and grateful about it.

So remember, look back only when you need to feel proud of yourself, to see how far you have come, to appreciate your strength, and just to see how much better you have gotten.

Wake up and live.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Doubt ruins everything

Self doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

I came across some of William Shakespeare’s quotes from his plays, and one of them really stood out to me: “Doubt kills everything, and ruins the best within us.” I always used to believe that I needed to be good at it naturally and that I would achieve it. But it never crosses my mind that I need to try to know if I can do it, and if not, then I can learn. There is this theory that I was studying the other day by Howard Gardner, where he says that intelligence doesn’t only come in academics but also in linguistic, musical, spatial and many more.

And that’s so true, but the doubt that comes before starting anything literally kills everything. I know at this point in my life, I have done so many things, some worked out while others didn’t, and that’s okay, but I learned so many things. If I let doubt take over my mind, I wouldn’t be mentally strong enough to achieve things further in my life. Remember, every moment and every opportunity is a step towards better things. We will be learning every single day in our lives; it is a phase that will never be over.

So, doubt before even trying is a big cause of losing so many things. Don’t be afraid to try new things; it will bring you so much confidence, and it will help you see yourself in a light where you can do so many things. It’s all the game of mind, how you look at things, and how you allow yourself to look past the doubts and take the step. I know it’s not easy to make up your mind and look past the doubt; however, ask yourself questions: if you took this opportunity, what would you be going to lose? Instead, you are going to learn. The first step towards learning is accepting the challenges and just doing it.

You need to make yourself and your mind stronger. You can do many things; it’s the doubt that ruins everything, so remember, before the doubt ruins it, you get over it.

You can do hard things.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Limit.

“What are you?”

“To define is to limit.” – Oscar Wilde

I love to read my old blog posts once in a while, and I came across my review for the Oh My Venus K-drama. And there is a quote in the drama that says, “If you’re hanging in there, you haven’t reached your limit.” And boom, I am here with my thoughts on it.

Let me keep it real with you all, I always underestimated myself, and people would come and say you could have done it, but you already decided you couldn’t. And now, at this stage where I am handling so much, I know I underestimated myself. We never truly know our potential until we give it all.

We have to test out limits, we have to take the risk and just do it. If it works, that’s amazing; if not, we are learning, and that’s what matters. Nobody really knows what they are made to do in this world; all of them have taken risks, tested their limits to reach where they are now.

If I want to create a life for myself, I need to break all the limits that I have created for myself in my mind. Nobody does that. I do it; I put limits in my mind about how I can’t do it. But how could I know that unless I have not even tried?

My goal is to take as many challenges as I can, irrespective of the result. I want to grow, and I want to learn, and that will happen when I push all of my limits and just do it. I never really knew that after giving my all, I might even conquer the world, and that’s what I want to do.

So in life, there will be moments where we just want to quit, and that’s okay and totally normal. Everyone deserves a break, but if you are hanging in there and you are okay, that means there is so much you have to do, there is so much waiting and calling your name.

You don’t have limits; if it’s all up to you, push yourself ahead. Do what scares you, because once an opportunity goes, it will never come back. So don’t create a limit in your mind beforehand until you don’t do it, you don’t try it, everything is limitless.

The sky is the limit.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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It’s okay to slow down.

You will find your way, even when it feels like you won’t.

I have been telling myself lately that it’s okay to slow down, and the only thing that is keeping me sane. You know when you reach a level where you are doing so much but are unable to see the result, yes, that’s where I am. I want to fly so high, but whenever I feel like I am about to touch the sky, it moves far away, and I start feeling that maybe flying high is not written in my destiny. I have been in a phase which makes me so proud to see how far I have come, but also in a phase where I am unable to be proud of myself; it feels like there is always something that pulls me back. I’m experiencing a range of emotions, but at the same time, I feel nothing; this is my standard status for so many years. And I let my emotions flow within me. If I am not feeling well mentally, then I won’t force myself to do anything, and that’s how I feel better. I always remind myself that my health is more important than anything, and if it makes me slow down, then it’s totally okay. Actually, everybody says to work hard and do it, but when it starts affecting your health, then slow down and let your emotions flow. Slowing down doesn’t mean you are behind; no, it’s all about your pace. I always remind myself to focus on my own journey and not compare it to others. It’s okay to slow down and reflect on how far you have come; it’s okay to dwell on how things didn’t go perfectly, allow all your emotions to flow; it doesn’t make you feel insane, but it will allow your mental health to be sane. Everything you are doing is perfect, even when you feel like it’s not, but at least you are trying. Life is all about making you feel all the emotions and nothing at once, so slow down if things feel too heavy, take a rest, look in the mirror and smile for how much you have held up, and if you want to cry, cry, it doesn’t make you weak but proud that you are allowing yourself to be okay.

It’s okay to grow slowly.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Priority

It’s not about “having” time.
It’s about making time.

I have realised that I can accomplish many things in a day if I have my priorities set correctly. If you have been following me for a long time, you might know that when I started blogging, I was not at all consistent and took a lot of breaks. But now it’s been almost 2 years since I have not missed a single day of posting, and I post two days a week. The reason is that I have my priority about blogging sorted out, I know I need to have my post ready, and like that, I have become so consistent that I wait for the day when I can write and upload my blog post. Right now, I am too busy, but I am working on a proper schedule on how I am going to do so many things in a day. I learned that giving priority to everything that I know I need to do will make everything happen properly without me stressing out about how I will do it. The number of times I have told myself that I am not going to manage everything, but I always do, because I know I want to do it all. Keeping your priorities straight by focusing on just yourself and things you want to do really helps in living life as an adult. Hustle is another name for adult life, so we need to hustle and work hard today for the future, but that doesn’t mean you have to spend the entire time doing it. Make a priority list of things that need to be done first, and how much time it will allow you to manage your time properly. You are your priority as well as your time, please learn how to maintain and use it properly because once the time passes by, it won’t come back. You do anything you want by setting your priority straight to the goal that you want to achieve. Be it anything, once you know your priority, everything works out well.

Make yourself a priority.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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It will happen…

I do not know how it will happen but I do know that it will happen.

My life has been crazy right now, but in a good way. I am at that stage of my life where I always used to dream, and now I am here, actually working and living in it. Not just that, but I have taken up so many challenges that the mini me would have never thought of because of how self-conscious I was back then. I am always so ready to take up challenges, and guess what, I am not even a little bit afraid of how I am going to do it, but I want to experience it and learn from it. And this habit of mine has taken me to places which I always thought would be out of my dreams, but now I am actually living it. What I have realised is that no matter how tough it looks, it will happen, and you will probably feel wondering how it happened, and you are actually living it. I believe that working on your passion will definitely lead you to the path that once felt impossible. It will take time, but speaking from my personal experience, someone who didn’t even think that what she is doing right now would be even 1 per cent possible, but it happened because I never let go of my passion and believed in myself. The advice I am giving to you is no matter how impossible it looks and how much you are afraid, take that challenge and do it, at least you will get to experience it as well as learn, which is more important than not doing anything. The important thing I have learned is that from doing only you are going to learn; if you want to go big, then you need to do it irrespective of the result. How would you know how capable you are unless you try it? If you want to achieve more, then you need to test yourself by taking up challenges that seem impossible, but that’s how you are going to learn and be ready to take on more challenges ahead. So, trust yourself; it will happen, and in a way that will really make you appreciate taking that step and making it happen. 

Maybe you should stop overthinking and just trust the way life happens.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Everyday is same but why…

You know all those things you’ve always wanted to do?

You should go do them.

Every day is the same but why is the pressure on our mind increasing, why are we becoming more emotionally drained, why do we have to worry about our future rather than enjoying our present, why are we not becoming happy but sad, and why does life feel so hard? I have come to a realization that all my days look mostly the same however as I am moving on I feel myself getting more tired emotionally. I feel connected to flawed characters more whenever I read books or watch movies. I understand them more and their perspective comes first in my mind. And I wonder about the thought that used to come, will I ever be able to live like those in movies or books, is it coming true? But where is the happy part? I feel the pressure of the future has thoroughly made living in the present breathless. As we go on, we sleep at night and wake up to another day and just ponder on how we have to follow the same routine but now we have more baggage on our mind. I feel like as we move on we should be moving upwards in life, feeling ourselves more happy and grateful. But as days go on we are getting more drained and sad and I am afraid. Seeing a whole different side of the world makes me appreciate life more, especially my present and how living in the moment is so important. Every day will be the same, it’s life however it’s all up to us we have to fight for our lives. I have learned that for things that I want in my life, I have to fight for it, if I have to make my life good then I need to find a reason for it. Guys life is worth fighting for believe me, everyone wants to live a good life, a life they can remember forever but for that, we have to fight every single day. I know some days it’s hard but just think you are worth everything so fight and make life worth it so that even when every day will be the same you will find happiness moving forward.

You deserve good things.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Choices.

“I never knew at one point in life I would be forced to give someone else the pen to write my story.” – MA.

You are very lucky if you have choices, I never really understood the importance of choices until I stood where I did not have any choice. And you know what was the worst part it was because of the mistakes of others rather than mine and my future has to suffer because of it, because of others. Sometimes life makes you stand at that corner where you are not left with any choices but helplessness and it hurts seeing how you become so helpless to even make choices in your own life. Every choice has a consequence no matter if it’s the choice of your own or others but the thing is when we are thrown into that choice we are forced to take up things that we never intended to take, It hurts seeing how different our life has become because of that choice and how better it would be if you choose yourself. But life never works that way it makes you go through hell, and it reminds you at every moment of the choice you never had until finally, you accept what has happened, and now it is the time to move on. Having the power to make choices in life is a treasure that not everyone can afford, I have learned that the hard way and once the choice has been made there is no going back. People say that making this choice is good for you, but how would they know what is good for us? Would they be there if something went wrong, no absolutely not! Life throws you into situations with no choice but just a way full of thorns that you need to go through alone, while your choice was never yours but the path is. Once the choice has been made, you have to take the responsibility and the consequences alone. But the funny thing is that the choice was never yours. You never got the right to choose what you truly wanted. You were just thrown to stand at the edge of the cliff and jump, but in reality, you just wanted to fly with wings.

“One wrong choice makes you question every single thing in your life” – MA.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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24 Things I Learned in 2024!

  1. Appreciate yourself for whatever you do.
  2. Protect your peace even if it makes you give up on things or someone.
  3. It’s okay to do whatever you want, you have the right to live a life that most don’t understand.
  4. Take the decision and ask everyone if you want to make the wrong decision.
  5. Fear will stop you from living but life is all about living so take the risk.
  6. You can do anything you want if only you have focus.
  7. Keep your feelings private to yourself.
  8. It’s okay if life made a turn you didn’t expect, maybe it’s for your own good.
  9. It’s okay to cry, you are only human.
  10. Be grateful as much as you can.
  11. People question you about your decision but never see what choices you have.
  12. Don’t impress anyone but only yourself.
  13. No matter what you do, people will never be happy.
  14. What matters is that you showed up, you tried, and you tried hard. It’s okay if something didn’t happen the way you wanted.
  15. It’s okay to prioritize yourself, don’t let the guilt consume you for that.
  16. Things that you are avoiding have the magic that you are looking for.
  17. Take the first step—just do it. If you won’t do it now, you won’t do it ever.
  18. Life is not perfect and any decision you take will come with hardships at an unexpected time.
  19. Don’t be a people pleaser and too kind.
  20. Say NO if necessary and it’s a complete sentence you don’t need to justify yourself.
  21. Live in the present if you start caring too much about the future, you won’t be able to create memories and fully enjoy yourself.
  22. It’s okay sometimes to take a break and just do what makes you happy.
  23. Work on yourself, for yourself, you know yourself better than anyone else.
  24. And the most important one, if you can’t avoid the situation just put your airpods in and live like there is no one other than you.

This is officially my last post of 2024 and I am so grateful for this year. There were a lot of ups and downs however it was the year where I could feel happy from inside. In this year, I was consistent with my posts and that is one of my biggest achievements that I am proud of. I learned a lot but shed a lot of tears as well but it’s okay I survived. It’s okay if your dream has yet not been achieved, I know you tried hard and did not give up. I am so proud of you, leave 2024 year behind and let’s work hard for 2025.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

“Believe in Yourself. You are Braver than you think, more Talented than you know, and Capable of more than you Imagine.”

“Believe in Yourself!” was and is the mantra I use in my life, in what I am doing. When I was in school I used to think that I will do this, but there were some “well-wishers” of mine who used to say, you are not able to do it and at that time was not at all confident in me. But now years later here I am with my passion of writing that I also wanted to do since I found out that I can share my thoughts with the world. Same like me, if you want to do something but there will always be second thoughts and that is totally normal. I have learned that you just need to do it without thinking what is going to happen because if you are confident enough to know that you can do it and your believe in yourself and you are halfway there. Believe that you are going to do it, believe that there is nothing that can stop you from getting things the way you want, believing in yourself will help you gain the confidence in yourself, just go with the flow and you are on the right path. You are unstoppable when you will make the motive to lose yourself with yourself. Make challenges with yourself that you will do better than yesterday and more better tomorrow. There will be thousands of “well-wishers” of yours, who will try to let you down plenty of times; you don’t need to put yourself in that work. Prove all of them wrong because they aren’t right in the first place you are just putting them in their place. When you are stubborn with the dreams of yours, with the wants of your life than there is no single soul out there who can stop you from getting what you want. You just need to Believe in Yourself and in the end everything is going to work out.

“Self confidence is a super power. Once you starts to believe in yourself, magic starts happening.”

Till we meet again, Be Happy Be Grateful and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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