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Things I have realized.

I am still learning how to go back & reread my own chapters without feeling like I want to set all my pages on fire.

E.V. Rogina.

Yesterday I went shopping with my mom and aunt and let me tell you I hated it so much. Like I don’t know what to do and what I like. I was just standing in the corner surrounded by so many people as they were finding clothes they like. And in the corner, I was there, staring at the space lost in my world and if someone saw me they would think and know how disinterested I am. Another thing I realized is how so many people were there with me and I don’t know anything about them why they are shopping and what is going on in their minds yet we are at the same place fighting to get the best piece. Life has truly become a race we all fight to get the best for us but the sad thing is only a few can do so. In the competition, so many people come and each one in their mind has that, in the end, they will see themselves with a trophy but at the same time, all of them know only one will be able to achieve it. It’s true you don’t know what goes inside the mind of the person sitting beside you be it your friends or someone random but at certain places where you encounter people you do know what’s going on inside their mind. Whenever we want to do something we always think about what people are going to say about that or what is their opinion but trust me everyone is so busy dealing with their own problem and fighting the race to win they don’t even care what you do and what is their opinion about you. We always let our minds bully us, we just think about other opinions about us and all but the truth is nobody cares what you do and what you want to do. Some people who are insecure about themselves and who want to be in your place are the ones who will spread hate about you but you need to learn that in the end, you are what matters only you. The truth is sometimes amidst the crowd you just have to walk away and not let the crowd sink you in and try to find out the way that works out for you. It’s not always that you need to follow the crowd, sometimes the crowd is there to tangle you in the mess and confuse you but also it teaches you things you need to realize.

Fun fact: I wrote this post while standing in the corner lost in my world;)

you do not just wake up and become the butterfly

– growth is a process

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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things that you don’t realize until you grow up!

We’re almost there and nowhere near it. All that matters is that we’re going.

I mean let’s start with when we were children we always wanted to be an adult because that 10-year-old child thinks that we will have the ability to do whatever we want because we will be an adult. And when you truly become an adult before that only in the teenage years, you understand how wrong you were and how much you were living in delusion. What I know is that when I was a kid, time and people were very different and I too wanted to be an adult because at that time circumstances were not that bad but now it’s not even bearable because of how young people are struggling to prove themselves to live in the society.

1. People:

Yes, nobody remains the same and you do too but some people you meet in your childhood that you dream about to be forever are a big scam. It’s true with time people change and changes are mandatory to grow however it doesn’t mean you must forget where you came from and who was with you in your hardest time fortunately some people do and this we realize only when we grow up.

2. Changes:

When everything starts to make sense and they were there too when you were a child but as an adult you will or I can say how we should as per some people we as adults should take responsibility for the changes that happen not because of us it’s just wrong timing I guess. Changes scare me because it does not only happen with mindset but with people too which we only understand when we grow up.

3. Feelings:

Sometimes talking out loud is so important to let people know how much they are hurting you and to make them understand that your feelings matter as well and that you are hurting too. But when we say our feelings out loud it makes us feel like we are gaining sympathy or it’s just nothing to look after. Growing up in an Asian household I know it so well because we have to emphasise everything we have to make people understand that our feelings matter too.

4. Peace:

Yes, the most important thing we want when we grow up is peace so that we can focus on ourselves and our goals. When we become an adult we just somehow take up the responsibility of others and solve their problems and amidst that, we just forget our problems and the things that we need to focus on. Sometimes I just want to read a book and have a Chai sitting in the park on the fresh grass and listening to birds chirping it’s enough for me. However even though it’s free and so simple it’s the hardest thing to achieve when I become an adult.

5. Sacrifice:

If we want to become an adult we have to sacrifice our childhood which we wouldn’t have minded when we were little, however now we are sacrificing things that we don’t even need to but circumstances. The worst part is that we don’t even realize we are sacrificing until it’s too late and people don’t even see how much we are putting effort by sacrificing our mental health, our goals, our sleep, and our life.

6. Dreams:

People don’t understand how important it is to have a dream and to be able to achieve it. But as an adult dreams do come with a big sacrifice that sometimes giving up the dream is an option. What hurts the most is to see someone else in that place which you always dreamed about and which you always longed for. You will understand that dreaming is easy but you have to fight for it so that you can achieve it and you realize it when you grow up.

Final Note:

When we grow up we truly understand that materialistic things value nothing but emotion and peace of mind is so important that things don’t have any price then too it’s the most expensive to have. Focusing on yourself is very hard as an adult but please see yourself above others, understand that your life matters the most and stop caring about people, it will take time but trust me it will be worth understanding things that you don’t realize until you grow up!

May the petals teach me the art of letting go.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Life is a MESS (well not anymore!)

Remember some things have to end for better things to begin.

In a previous post of mine, I wrote of how life at a certain point becomes so messy that sweeping through it becomes impossible and we are unable to find the way out. And here I am with an upgraded version of it that comes from within me. For the past two months, I had a little rough period because of the difference in making decisions and because I myself wasn’t able to figure it out and that is why a lot of stress was on my mind. And now that I am finally writing this I am a lot more relieved than what I wrote before this. The biggest reason why I am relieved is time because with time everything fits in place and I decided to start everything all over again. A lot of decisions were taken and a lot of mistakes were made but finally in the end everything made sense to me. The two months of hustle come to an end now and ahead it will not be like I am not going to face any problems it’s just now I know the destination and I have prepared my mind for it so I am ready. Just like I said life is bitter sweet bitter sweet, it’s a process where not every moment you are going to like but it also doesn’t mean every moment in your life will be bitter it’s a process you need to go through bitterness to crave and understand the importance of sweetness and then only you can understand it’s worth as well. Life can get messy at a certain point where we lose our minds as the path ahead is filled with so much confusion, uneasiness, and all those things that we want to run away from. But I am just going to say give time and don’t give up it might be a lot hard in the beginning but trust me one day you will say life is a mess(well not anymore!)

Keep working hard. I am rooting for you! And trust me in the end it’s all going to be worth it.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Life is a MESS!

it’s all messy.

the hair.

the bed.

the words.

the heart.

life.

Life is like chess, one wrong move everything crumbles down. My life currently can be compared to chess because it has become a mess and no matter how much I try to sweep the mess I see myself doing otherwise. To be honest, the future scares me because I am not at all good at making decisions about how much I try to do what I want for myself it always happens the opposite. Once you mess up your ability to make decisions everything you want to do in life comes with so much doubt about yourself. I know it’s just time that I need to give myself and everything will fall into place, however, the process of the same it’s painful. Life is so funny it makes us hate and love it at the same time one moment you are happily enjoying and the next moment you are fighting your way out. It scares me when I see no sign of help when I see that fate is not helping me in deciding the route and currently, I am in that phase and I believe all humans go through that phase. And the thoughts about how our life is getting messy do not always come it’s there though in the back of the mind however it just clicks at most random times especially when you don’t need more acquisitions about yourself. I know it’s just a phase and it will pass and whatever decision I will take will sit perfectly in my life and if it doesn’t I will make sure to squeeze and make it fit, come on I need to show my power right;)

If you are going through the same phase where every moment in your life is a mess, let me tell you to start all over again it will be hard but it will be worth it. Only you can solve your own mess and you have to have the courage to sweep through the mess that will lead you to your victory. And when you will look back you can proudly see yourself being free from life is a mess!

They say before something great happens to you, everything falls apart.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Decisions.

The move that you’re afraid to make could be the one that changes everything!

It breaks my heart to make a decision about something I want but everyone disagrees. Decisions never become a very important part of one’s life until they realise how crucial it is to think about themselves without letting other people do it for them. One thing to keep in mind is that every decision you are going to take will not make everyone happy there will be people who don’t want you to go for it like really close ones maybe, parents and siblings and to be honest you, yourself don’t know if the decision is going to be right or not. However, life is all about risk, I have talked with so many old people and asked them what is one thing they want to tell their younger generation to us? And everyone told you if you want to achieve something you have to take risks without risk there is nothing good and exciting that will happen in your life. And then I realized that you can’t always get happiness there are so many important feelings that you need to go through to truly enjoy the process of life. Decisions are very tough to make because of the unexpected result of it but as I said it is all about risk and not many people are going to support you, you have to fight through and lead the path you always wanted to walk on. Making any decision is so hard like the mind wavering back and forth, reassuring oneself that it’s the right decision, doubting the decision a thousand times, if something goes wrong you can feel demotivated, and many other feelings take place while taking the decision and after that too. However, you have to make a choice life is always about choices you can’t keep both and that’s why you need to take a decision and until and unless you won’t take it you can’t move forward in life. Remember life is all about risk and you have to take it by making decisions.

“Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.”

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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The Story of Broken Relationships!

Sometimes you have to make a decision that will break your heart but will give peace to your soul.

Any relationship is the effort of both parties, a person will receive and need to give for the relationship to develop a strong bond. However, it doesn’t seem as easy as said because each person has their own thoughts which might clash and that is why communication is very important which leads to understanding and mature bonds in any relationship. Any broken piece of glass be it big or tiny can pierce the skin of people very badly and it’s just a physical cut, it will heal. However, it is said when a relationship is going to break people can feel it just like glass it pierces the skin exactly the relationship which is broken breaks the person’s existence and makes them question what they did wrong. And the difference between them is the physical cut of glass will heal and will be long forgotten but broken relationships will always stay in the memories and whenever something related to them comes forward we are thrown into a flashback which is more intense as we relive all the pain again. There are always two sides to a story, one where a person chooses a relationship over him/her or where a person chooses him/her over the relationship. When decades of a relationship come to an end it hurts a lot and some might not even want to end it because the memories the relationship has created the bond everything from so many years will make one feel that it will all be waste and that is why people tend to be in a relationship where they just want to escape but not want to end it. I always watched people having such big groups of friends including myself but I only have a few whom I talk to daily and now I have realized that having only one friend that I talk to daily is heavenly for me because that one friend of mine doesn’t make me feel like I need another one and that one friend of mine is enough for me.

It hurts to let go of a relationship especially friendship when the flashback appears or the moments in the present or the future which you both talked about in the past take place but with whom you planned out everything is just not there or they are there but not like before it’s more formal now. I always heard that with time people change and you lose them and now I truly believe in it because it’s not time or people that change them, it’s just them they wanted to change and they allow it which leads to the story of broken relationships!

You can miss someone

and heal at the same time.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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My Beige Flags!

When something goes wrong in your life, just yell “PLOT TWIST” and move on.

I hate shopping to the core like literally I can’t stand it maybe because I have no interest in fashion as well as for me shopping is love at first sight when I will see something I love it at the first moment then it’s final I am going to buy that and I don’t even need to roam around the shop because I know I will not like anything.

I don’t like coffee at all, I prefer Masala Chai all the time. I drink coffee twice or not even once in a whole year. The time when I drink coffee is when I will visit my friend and she insists on having it that too once in a while I say yes.

I am not at all a sweet tooth maybe because I am an Asian and come from a country where we love species so maybe that is why I don’t prefer sweets. If I have to eat sweets then I will choose my country’s traditional sweet dishes, they are too delicious to make me forget about having a sweet tooth.

Books >>> Movies. Yes, I don’t like watching movies because I can’t stay still for a second so sitting for a two-hour movie I just can’t do it. But for books, I will just lay and read for a couple more years;)

I have my own fictional world and I don’t even realize when I am transmitting there and it happens a lot when I am surrounded by many people;)

I don’t like change in terms of food, clothing, surroundings, and many other things, I just want to stick to the basics. I want to try different things, however, it’s just my mind that doesn’t allow it.

I just read Lifesfinewhine’s post about her Beige Flags and I loved it. So I decided to write mine as well and share it with you all. Hope you all enjoyed it. Don’t forget to check her post as well by clicking here.

Where’s my oscar for acting like everything is fine.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Scared.

That move you are scared to make might just be the one.

Tell me honestly how many of you are scared of your own feeling and thoughts that made you stop taking steps in your life. I am one of them because of my insecurities and my fear of making the wrong decision because as many people say, life does not always give you a second chance. After all, moving on is not at all easy. Feeling scared before and after taking a big decision is a part of my dictionary because of how uncertain I am with myself and not being able to believe in myself leads to this but only for a small time. I have realized that in the beginning I always let my insecurities and my fear take over control especially when I am starting a new chapter in my life but it’s totally normal it’s a human tendency to do it because it takes our mind to adjust to new things to new pressure which makes us scared. Let me tell you that if something big happened that made people scared to do it again or to move forward is not at all easy, to begin with. But this life we are living at the moment is playing hide and seek with us every second it will scare us and challenge us to move forward and that is where we have to be brave and try to tell ourselves that being scared will lead was nowhere that is why we have to be brave and let me tell you after being scared when you get the courage to move forward will lead to another level of satisfaction for yourself trust me. It’s okay to be afraid of never let your mind makes you feel guilty about it just remember to not let fear control it calmly find out the way and slowly move to clear the path for yourself. Taking chances is always scary but there is something more scary that one should fear missing out on the beautiful chances you will get by taking the chance just because you are scared.

If it excites you and scares you at the same time, it probably means you should do it.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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I’m Happy! (My Two Year Blog Anniversary)

The surprise is that I wrote a POEM for you all. A few days ago I decided to write a poem for the two-year anniversary of my blog and then only I wrote a poem of just four lines because I just can’t think anymore and please don’t judge me. Then this morning I opened the book and wrote one more without correcting anything that too in one go and I am feeling so proud of myself and it’s all thanks to you guys. Let me present to you guys the poem written by me.

TO THIS

When did I grow,

From writing on paper,

And keeping my thoughts to myself,

TO THIS.

When did I change,

From self-doubting myself,

And afraid to start,

TO THIS.

My mind was clogged,

from the confusion that I myself created,

My heart was full,

by keeping so much to myself,

If I didn’t take the first step,

two years back,

I won’t be able to come,

TO THIS.

Two years back on the same day, I wrote my first ever blog post and it was something that I always wanted to do and finally I did it. My feelings right now are all over the place, to be honest, it’s really a long period for me two years doesn’t feel like yesterday but a whole decade because apart from posting here I did so many other things that made me grow and made me realize my career path. I started everything on this day so yeah it felt such a long time for me. I was always confused and afraid about my career however when I started blogging so many things opened up to me and the air of confusion cleared up in my mind.

THANK YOU SO MUCH for landing on my page and reading my posts. I wouldn’t be here if it weren’t for you guys. Thank you for holding the torch in my dark world, I hope I can do the same for you all. A big hug of hope, happiness, gratitude, and every feeling that you need from me to you all. If you are afraid to take the first step just do it and make yourself proud. Again THANK YOU SO MUCH.

this chapter feels really good.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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What if?

What if life isn’t happening

to you…

What if life is happening

for you?

Rachel Hollis.

Nowadays we live our life on what if this and what if that. Every single time we want to take any step we have so many questions and a list of what if and it never ends. It is rightly said that negative thoughts do have a very big control on us before taking any step so many negative thoughts surround us and then we find ourselves captured in those thoughts. But if we truly try to escape it we can actually do it, trust me because believing in yourself and moving forward is one of the biggest goals of life and negative thoughts do teach us that. The amount of what if the list is never ending because we just don’t let ourselves take a break we just continue to think what if in a negative way, the positive side that doesn’t appear just we just don’t let it. It is true that no man alive can tell you what the future is going to be and whether the decision you are taking is right or not and so many equations that you fear. However, we cannot let what if rules our life we have to take risks in order to experience the gain from them or learn from them because it will save us from the guilt of letting go of the chance.

What if the decision is wrong but what if the decision might not be wrong? What if all the struggles you are going through might be for your beautiful chapter ahead? What if it will work out in the end if it does not feel right now? What if who I become is what I needed the most all along? What if we accept the inevitable and lead towards the next step? What if today’s hard work leads to amazing things? What if you become the person you always dreamed about? What if you see your dream become a reality? And so many what if which truly help you to think positively whenever you think negatively just reverse it and try to think in a more non-negative way and trust me you will get all the solutions to what if?

What if

I CAN.

Till we meet again, Be happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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