The Stronger Ones

And sometimes you meet yourself back where you started, but stronger.

I was reading a quote that I screenshot, probably many years ago, which is how stronger ones know the pain of everything. Because they have gone through the pain of dealing with things in life. How funny is life? If it wants to make you stronger, it will make you suffer in a way that you get used to. The stronger you are, the more pain you learn to hide. I will say from my experience, life teaches you everything you need to know how to be strong, even in situations where you want to scream to the world how much you are suffering. It’s not bad being the weaker ones because that’s how you become the stronger ones. Stronger ones are not the ones who know their way around everything beforehand. They are those who know how to spend hours working hard and how to handle various situations. Being strong doesn’t mean knowing everything, but it means knowing how to deal with situations. Crying is never a weakness, but a sign of never giving up and the way to make the heart stronger for life. The way we deal with situations, the more we become stronger. Also, nobody deserves to know what you do, how you do it, or how you deal with situations. It’s only your concern how to be strong and keep going in life. Being stronger and being weaker go hand in hand; they coexist. The stronger ones dealt with situations where they knew nothing; however, they kept going. At some point in life, we need to have some time where we blow off everything that we are dealing with through taking a break, crying and totally not being okay. And everything is fine as long as you don’t give up. So, all out there, remember life is tough, but you are too!

This is tough. But so am I.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Every great story takes time to unfold

“In the end, we’ll all become stories.” – Margaret Atwood.

I love books, and most of the credit for my blogging goes to them. If I hadn’t started reading, I probably wouldn’t be here writing this blog post. One of the biggest reasons why I love books is that they know how to reach my emotions without actually showing. What I have learned from the books is that every book and every story takes time to unfold. In the beginning, everything is a mess, the protagonist is trying to find how to survive, and in the end, everything makes sense. Doesn’t this apply to our lives? Our lives are like book pages, each page inks what is happening and the problems that need to be dealt with. The pages are going to turn, but only after the first page is fully inked or you decide to leave it blank. I never really understood the concept of blank pages until a theory made it into my mind. That’s how important that blank page is. It is not easy to leave the page blank, but sometimes in life we are forced to leave behind what we truly desire and start over. It also means that ahead the pages will be filled with beautiful ink that will compensate for that blank page. So every story unfolds, but slowly, some pages are blanks, some are messy, and some are beautiful. Just like life, it is filled with stages where we will face so many scenarios. But it doesn’t stay forever, just like pages are turned exactly when situations change. And each situation, be it good or small, will forever be embedded in our minds. Some pages will teach us lessons, some will make us happy, some will make us sad, and some will forever be there, reminding us to never give up. So just like every story takes time to unfold, go through different stages in the same way our likes are like this. Our lives take time to unfold, and we go through different stages to see our story unfold. Also, in the world, there are many books according to everyone’s taste. Just like that in your lives, you have chances to throw the entire book and write a new one the way you want.

“Maybe it’s not about a happy ending. Maybe it’s about the story.” – Albert Camus

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Is life this serious?

Don’t think too much.

The question that changes in the situation of lives. I love to watch interview videos of old people and the advice they give. Among all the videos, the most common one was to live life to the fullest, because we will regret not living in the moment. When I think about life, I see it as a process that continues. There will be sadness, but also, after that, happiness is going to wait for us. If we take life too seriously, then when are we going to live? We can’t be waiting for life to give us the chance, but we have to make it in the moment. What I feel is that life is not that serious; it’s how we make it that matters the most. At this point in my life, I have seen many situations and overthought a lot, but in the end, everything went well. But overthinking takes a heavy toll on my health, which is hard to recover from. So whenever I come across a situation, I try not to overthink it but trust my abilities. The thing that I don’t like is regret that someday in my life ahead I will have the regret that I didn’t live my life the way I wanted to, just because I overthink a lot or take my life too seriously. We can’t bring time back, so we take life too seriously, just thinking about problems, and not enjoying living in the moment, which kind of destroys the whole purpose of life. It’s all on you, how you analyse the situation, and don’t let your heart be closed to the world. Open yourselves up to the world; there is so much to enjoy, it’s our mind that is stopping us from letting us live, but create that mindset, and everything will be fine.

Don’t worry about what you can’t control.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Afraid…

you’re afraid to let yourself be happy because you know that it never lasts

I have grown up watching so many dramas where the leads are happy for some time, and then something major will happen, ruining their life. In almost all dramas, there is a fear that happiness is short-lived. And this also kind of resonates with real life. We are always in constant distress that happiness will not last long. Maybe celebrating too much will lead to bad things and so much more. Actually, we take a lot of tension to be happy, which is such an irony. Nowadays, happiness is short-lived because we are in constant tension of the next step and the challenges it’s going to bring. We never really sit down and thoroughly enjoy the happiness; we are just rushing to the next thing. Well, what can we do with the constant demand of the world to do better and more? I read somewhere that we spend so much of our lives worrying about something going bad that we never thoroughly enjoy what’s in front of us. It’s a routine that we are always afraid to choose happiness because we feel like it can be lost anytime now. However, this is life, with phases at every moment, but that doesn’t mean we don’t deserve happiness. I think we need to let go and just go with the flow. I know it’s tough to stop thinking about the future and worrying about it, but when living in the present is more sensible than worrying about the future. Don’t be afraid to celebrate every little win of your life; it’s your moment, and you deserve to appreciate yourself. Who is going to celebrate you winning if not you? Ignore the voice that constantly makes you worry, but start listening to your heart and appreciate yourself for everything. Feeling afraid is inevitable; however, we can’t live like this, learn to enjoy every single win of your life by leaving behind the stress of the future.

be afraid and do it anyway

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Random Thoughts…

It’s the little things, always.

I am someone who would sit for hours just looking outside and thinking about my life. And this has been happening a lot lately. A thought ran through my mind about how much my life has changed, and for the better. In childhood, I literally wouldn’t have imagined myself being where I am right now. Honestly, I am too grateful to be here and to be able to do things that I imagined myself not being able to. When I think about how fast my life has changed, I still can’t believe it. Doing something that once was impossible feels so great, especially for someone like me who thought that I was not good at anything. When I even read my old blog posts, I can see how much I have grown. Once what I talked about happened, and now what I am talking about, I will come back to read and feel nostalgic about my past. So many random thoughts keep coming into my mind all the time, especially about myself and my growth. I love to think about my life every now and then, and to be honest, it brings me joy thinking about how much I have grown. Definitely, there are many things that I wouldn’t like to have in my life; however, I am grateful for every small thing. It’s always the small things that make me fully happy and grateful. I don’t know why, but I have been noticing small things bring me more joy, maybe because it’s always the same small things that make a huge difference. I always try to do better and better so that my confidence and my courage keep me at ease. These kinds of thoughts come to my mind when I am deeply lost in my thoughts, and I need to jot them down so that I know my feelings. This post is one of them, and I know many more are to come.

for your own peace, let things be.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Freedom.

She was better than happy. She was free.

The word itself speaks for itself. As an adult, what I realised the most is how important freedom is. Freedom allows you to do everything, even the aspect of money comes secondary to it. In my bucket list, I have a wish to randomly book a ticket to the most random place without much thinking and experience it. Because I believe the most spontaneous and random memories are the most cherished ones. Freedom to do anything, this is such an expensive sentence because it comes with a cost of sacrificing so many things to get to this point. As a girl, for me, freedom is to do anything at any time in life. There should never be a pattern in which I have to do a particular thing at a particular time. It’s my life, and whenever I feel like doing something, I will do it. Free from responsibilities, free from expectations, free from feelings about others also plays a huge role in allowing the freedom to come. I feel like it’s all about not having to answer someone ‘what’ and ‘why’ you are doing a particular thing, going somewhere, or choosing whatever you like to do. When I think about freedom, I think about myself at the top of the mountain with my face filled with a smile like I never smiled before, spreading my hands and having no thought in my mind except how lucky I am to be able to experience this. I want to fly like I want to touch the sky, I want to swim as if I will reach the end, I want to scream as everyone hears, and I want to live as no one has ever lived. Freedom is expensive in the sense that once you taste it, there is no going back, and I hope this reaches each one of you. Your freedom is the most important thing to exist because it will allow you to think for yourself and get the strength to create a life that you always wanted and deserved.

The power of freedom is greater than any force.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Doubt ruins everything

Self doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

I came across some of William Shakespeare’s quotes from his plays, and one of them really stood out to me: “Doubt kills everything, and ruins the best within us.” I always used to believe that I needed to be good at it naturally and that I would achieve it. But it never crosses my mind that I need to try to know if I can do it, and if not, then I can learn. There is this theory that I was studying the other day by Howard Gardner, where he says that intelligence doesn’t only come in academics but also in linguistic, musical, spatial and many more.

And that’s so true, but the doubt that comes before starting anything literally kills everything. I know at this point in my life, I have done so many things, some worked out while others didn’t, and that’s okay, but I learned so many things. If I let doubt take over my mind, I wouldn’t be mentally strong enough to achieve things further in my life. Remember, every moment and every opportunity is a step towards better things. We will be learning every single day in our lives; it is a phase that will never be over.

So, doubt before even trying is a big cause of losing so many things. Don’t be afraid to try new things; it will bring you so much confidence, and it will help you see yourself in a light where you can do so many things. It’s all the game of mind, how you look at things, and how you allow yourself to look past the doubts and take the step. I know it’s not easy to make up your mind and look past the doubt; however, ask yourself questions: if you took this opportunity, what would you be going to lose? Instead, you are going to learn. The first step towards learning is accepting the challenges and just doing it.

You need to make yourself and your mind stronger. You can do many things; it’s the doubt that ruins everything, so remember, before the doubt ruins it, you get over it.

You can do hard things.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Friends at Different Stages of Life…

True friendship isn’t about being inseparable. It’s about being separated and nothing changes.

Just imagine you are sitting with your friends in the canteen during your lunch break and discussing your future and where you all will be in the next ten years, and you promise each other that you will be together in every step of your life. Now, ten years later, you find yourself alone doing something totally different while your other friends are doing something else. And that, my friend, is the reality of life. You never thought that one day the friends you used to share your bench with would now be so far away, living their lives while you are living yours. That’s what we call the different stages of life that everyone goes through. Nobody stays at the same stage because everyone has their own choice and their own path in life. One of your friends is getting married, one is moving to a different country, and one is opening their own business, while you are probably thinking about your future. Friends who share the same conversations every day are now living at different stages of their lives. Why does nobody talk about how lonely it feels trying to find the right path by yourself? It is crazy to see myself and my friends living a full adult life. Whenever I talk or think about my friends, I feel like we truly grew up so fast from canteen talk to adult talk, and now we stand at different stages of our lives. What hurts the most is that we will never be sitting and chatting happily in the canteen again, and we will never be children again. But we did make beautiful memories that all will cherish forever, and that’s the power of memories; whenever we want, we can reminisce about them. Now, wherever I look at my friends, I feel incredibly proud and happy, as they were the same people who used to make me laugh and make my life better. Cheers up, people, we might be at different stages of life, but the life we lived, the memories we created, will forever be there in our hearts.

Friendship is the purest form of love.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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