Inevitable.

Life humbles you as you age.

You realize how much time you wasted on nonsense.

Why is it so hard to accept rejection and why is it so hard to accept reality? Everything in life is chaos and our mind plays the biggest reason for it. I know how much I think about the future or even the next day, nothing happens, it’s just my thoughts that keep me awake at night. I am not at all an overthinking person, but adult life has made me engage in it for a while now. I never understood people who do overthinking, and say it’s so dangerous. Now I know why it is dangerous. I have learned the hard way that accepting reality is one of the important things you can do to live a peaceful life. There are things in life that are inevitable that cannot be changed and you have only two options. First, let yourself sink in the things that happen and dwell but nothing is going to change. The second one lets your mind accept that it happened now you have to move on. In life, things are going to happen, it’s compulsory to us, it is inevitable we can’t change them but we have to learn how to accept it. The attitude of saying, ‘Yes it happened now, I should not dwell on it and let’s look at the next move.’ Pain is inevitable and it will come back at every interval if people keep suffering for everything then what will happen, you can’t even imagine it. Keep the attitude of thinking about yourself, and give yourself the determination that you are going to live this life however you want. Rejections and failures are inevitable, it is going to come how much you will try to escape it. So be smart, accept those things and work your way to achieve the life you deserve, because life has moments that are inevitable.

Change is inevitable.

Even is you’re not ready for it.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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It’s Going To Be OKAY!

There are going to be days when you are not going to be okay with everything that is happening to you and around you but you are going to have to tell yourself everything is going to be alright just so you can sleep at night and move on.

Hey there, I think it is really important that you know right now that it’s going to be OKAY. I just want to tell you that because I feel like you needed to hear that, and I really mean that. I am really proud of you. You might feel like it’s really tough, and I know it’s really tough, but please hang in there and everything is going to be okay. Trust yourself it’s just a life phase, it’s just a chapter it will pass on, and it will turn. Just please hang in there. I just want to say that overthinking will take you nowhere. You should know that every feeling you feel doesn’t need to have an answer or solution. Sometimes you need to accept what you are feeling and slowly you have to let it sink. Life is never perfect, we miss opportunities, we make mistakes, we lose our minds, and it’s okay it’s a part of the life you are living. It doesn’t show that you are failing, no, it doesn’t. Just as feelings of accomplishment or happiness make you happy at the same time feelings of sadness, and unsuccessfulness make you strong. Just like I say every time life is a process of bitter sweet bitter sweet. You need to feel and go through all the steps you can’t escape anyone and you need to accept that. Somedays are meant to teach you and somedays are meant to reflect, it’s part of life that is inevitable. Take a deep breath and say that it’s going to be OKAY!

Not going to spoil the ending for you, but it’s going to be okay.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Things you can’t make people understand.

Some people are committed to misunderstand you. Let them. Focus on yourself and only yourself.

It has been such a thing around us about how you should be able to make everyone happy and do things that people expect you to do. A long time ago, I learned how hard it is to be quiet when you want to say something but at the same time, it taught me how much peace it brings to my mind. Because you can’t make people understand if they don’t want to understand. We are so used to seeing opinions about ourselves from the eyes of others. Still, some people make others feel that their opinion about them is right. At the adult age, you will understand that you can’t make people see you how you want them to. Everyone you will meet has their opinion about you maybe it’s good or maybe it’s not your business because you should never give anyone a chance to give an opinion about yourself. What goes inside your mind only you know. And sometimes it’s very hard to make people understand that you don’t need advice for it. It’s not always that one needs advice but an assurance that mistakes happen and it’s not the end of the world. You don’t need to change yourself for others, to fit in their category of opinion about you. I know it hurts when nobody believes in you, and I won’t say it gets easier as you move on. But trust your instinct people are always going to say something about you, it’s you who need to make a goal to not care about other and remembers that there are things you can’t make people understand. Because people don’t know why we are having such a hard time, or why we are struggling so much, and there’s no one who can understand.

Don’t change yourself for someone who don’t understand you.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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When reality hits too HARD.

teach your heart to accept disappointments,

even from the people you love.

When coming back home from a very good day spent, singing on the street, jumping around but as close as the home is the feeling inside starts to change and you also don’t realize the humming of the song or when your feet become cold and stuck at one place. All these happen because when reality hits too hard the tape that holds the bubble starts tearing apart and you are left alone with no one around only your thoughts and fear that eats you up. Reality is something that no one wants to accept however the quicker you accept the reality the inevitable the better the fog of confusion and delusion starts to clear up. The realisation when your face hits the cold pillow that how much behind you are and how much you didn’t succeed today. At the end of the day, we get the chance to reflect on our day and most of the time it’s disappointing only because reality is not easy, however, we need to accept the truth of how it is and reality can’t be changed. However, it doesn’t mean your life motive is over but sometimes we need to have a reality check in between in order to stay put. Everyone is different as some accept the inevitable while some try to find out what they did wrong. Nothing is wrong it’s just that reality has its own way of shaping us and finding the real route for us. Sometimes when everything starts to be overwhelming or things might be going good but you still feel lost there is when reality needs to step up so that you can have a more clear picture of your life. Remember awful feelings may make you feel awful but these are the only feelings that can make you strong and at that time when you don’t even need them but ahead in future you will not even realize how good you are handling the situations that reality taught you back in the days and that is why it is important to accept when reality hits too hard.

And in the end, all I learned was, to be strong

Alone.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Struggling…

Every struggle in your life has shaped you into the person you are today.

Be thankful for the hard times, they can only make you stronger.

Struggling is that factor of one’s life that is not at all looked upon when talking about people’s success and even failure. The number of people who struggle every single day to meet their ends or to protect their mental health is innumerable and is ignored when we see those same people smiling and enjoying themselves because each one of them has so much to tell. Struggles are not seen in broad daylight, they crave out only when your face hits the cold pillow or when midst of chaos you feel lonely. Struggling every moment of your life and to be able to be the best version of yourself is so hard. Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors, nobody knows how many tears are shredded to even begin with a new page in life, nobody knows the amount of taunting voice that disturbs us every single time when we are happy, and nobody knows how much struggle we have done to reach there. There are always two sides to the story, one is what we let the people see and the other side is where people themselves decide what they want to see. Never ever feel that your struggles are nothing, they are proof to yourself that you have done everything in your power despite so many hurdles to not give up. Just like after every sunset there is a sunrise behind every struggle you do that leads to you being stronger. Every struggle gives you double the strength to fight against them, just remember that struggling is a moment that will pass soon just like everything else. I am so proud of you, I know you are struggling so do I but we got this, don’t worry. You need to fight and prove to yourself that you are the best and you are enough for yourself despite all the struggles.

Just because someone carries it well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Count your blessings—not your troubles!

You have so little to complain about and so much to be grateful for. Stop stressing and start counting your blessings.

Is it just me or someone else as well that whenever I buy something I never feel happy but I feel guilty that I spend money and whenever I look at people around me who can’t afford those things I feel so bad and that I also don’t deserve it. But as time passes by I have realized that those people are happy because they don’t have many things to be grateful for and the things they have counted as their blessings and are happy with that. I always try to be grateful as much as possible that today I can afford to write here and post without having the tension of anything. You just need to find a purpose in life and start counting your blessings in the place of your misfortune. Remember if there are misfortunes and troubles then there are also blessings which we normally ignore to count because of our negative thinking. I have always learned to count my blessings as much as I can because sometimes we become so greedy that we always look at the negative side and just think of so many troubles that are coming our way. Also how we picturized the situation plays a big role too in helping us keep our mind positive. Troubles come to everyone irrespective of their background it’s a life thing which no one can control and we do know how to handle them but sometimes it gets too much that we start complaining and it’s okay we do need some time to come back to our senses. How to make sure that we do not take our blessings for granted is by journaling and writing what good happened today or what so not good happened and how can you write those things in a positive way helps in reminding that you are truly blessed. Now in this era, if you are breathing that actually is one of the blessings you should always be thankful for. When you start counting your blessings you will realize that you don’t have time to count your troubles and life is sweet bitter sweet bitter it will never be trouble-free and it’s a process you just need to learn to count your blessings-not your troubles!

Happiness is not about getting all you want, it is about enjoying what you have.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Things I have realized.

I am still learning how to go back & reread my own chapters without feeling like I want to set all my pages on fire.

E.V. Rogina.

Yesterday I went shopping with my mom and aunt and let me tell you I hated it so much. Like I don’t know what to do and what I like. I was just standing in the corner surrounded by so many people as they were finding clothes they like. And in the corner, I was there, staring at the space lost in my world and if someone saw me they would think and know how disinterested I am. Another thing I realized is how so many people were there with me and I don’t know anything about them why they are shopping and what is going on in their minds yet we are at the same place fighting to get the best piece. Life has truly become a race we all fight to get the best for us but the sad thing is only a few can do so. In the competition, so many people come and each one in their mind has that, in the end, they will see themselves with a trophy but at the same time, all of them know only one will be able to achieve it. It’s true you don’t know what goes inside the mind of the person sitting beside you be it your friends or someone random but at certain places where you encounter people you do know what’s going on inside their mind. Whenever we want to do something we always think about what people are going to say about that or what is their opinion but trust me everyone is so busy dealing with their own problem and fighting the race to win they don’t even care what you do and what is their opinion about you. We always let our minds bully us, we just think about other opinions about us and all but the truth is nobody cares what you do and what you want to do. Some people who are insecure about themselves and who want to be in your place are the ones who will spread hate about you but you need to learn that in the end, you are what matters only you. The truth is sometimes amidst the crowd you just have to walk away and not let the crowd sink you in and try to find out the way that works out for you. It’s not always that you need to follow the crowd, sometimes the crowd is there to tangle you in the mess and confuse you but also it teaches you things you need to realize.

Fun fact: I wrote this post while standing in the corner lost in my world;)

you do not just wake up and become the butterfly

– growth is a process

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Things I Wish I had said but NEVER DID!

Stay soft.

Do not let the things that have hurt you turn you into a person you are not.

It’s OK to not be OK, the biggest mantra I wanna say to myself and keep repeating because not everything in my life is going to be perfect and I should not have that prediction either. Some people just don’t want to accept it they think that I am perfect and if I made any mistakes then it’s over for me they think the first time was just my luck and I don’t know anything.

I can’t always be happy and smiling because life is not about it. If people truly care about you then they will want you to show them your real feeling and you, yourself want to do so. But sometimes people are like just be happy and keep smiling if you tell them your problems but that’s not fine. If I want to cry and scream about my problems then that’s okay everyone has that right.

Many people like things that are very common to like but it’s okay if I don’t it’s not the end of the world. I am a very picky person and I know I need to open up my mind a little bit but somewhere if I need to think and make decisions wisely it’s not bad. It’s my life and I can do whatever I want.

Sometimes you don’t need people to give you advice and be rescued about it. Sometimes you just want someone to listen to you, you want someone who holds your hand lightly and stares at your face with warmth while you are ranting about your problems because not everyone is ready to listen to your problems. I just want to be accepted the way I am and whatever situation I am in I just want people to know not every situation can be changed sometime you just have to have the will to accept it.

I don’t always need to try hard just because I did on the first one. Circumstances change, and problems can arise from anywhere, and time so your progress might not be up to the mark but that doesn’t mean the first one was luck and that you’re not working hard.

Saying things out loud is not bad at all. People make it seem that you are gaining sympathy but it’s not true. You should know your limit and when things have to be said it has to be said. It’s so important to make people realize how not everything in life goes according to them and how your feelings matter too.

Above are the things I wish I could tell people on their faces at the right time but Alas! I learned a lot for me to keep in mind what truly matters to me and how I should only focus on myself. Remember it’s your life, don’t ever let anyone make you feel guilty about how you are dealing with situations and how you are living your life. Also, say whatever you want if you feel like it’s not right because you don’t want to have things you wish you had said but NEVER DID!

you deserve to feel the same love that you give.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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things that you don’t realize until you grow up!

We’re almost there and nowhere near it. All that matters is that we’re going.

I mean let’s start with when we were children we always wanted to be an adult because that 10-year-old child thinks that we will have the ability to do whatever we want because we will be an adult. And when you truly become an adult before that only in the teenage years, you understand how wrong you were and how much you were living in delusion. What I know is that when I was a kid, time and people were very different and I too wanted to be an adult because at that time circumstances were not that bad but now it’s not even bearable because of how young people are struggling to prove themselves to live in the society.

1. People:

Yes, nobody remains the same and you do too but some people you meet in your childhood that you dream about to be forever are a big scam. It’s true with time people change and changes are mandatory to grow however it doesn’t mean you must forget where you came from and who was with you in your hardest time fortunately some people do and this we realize only when we grow up.

2. Changes:

When everything starts to make sense and they were there too when you were a child but as an adult you will or I can say how we should as per some people we as adults should take responsibility for the changes that happen not because of us it’s just wrong timing I guess. Changes scare me because it does not only happen with mindset but with people too which we only understand when we grow up.

3. Feelings:

Sometimes talking out loud is so important to let people know how much they are hurting you and to make them understand that your feelings matter as well and that you are hurting too. But when we say our feelings out loud it makes us feel like we are gaining sympathy or it’s just nothing to look after. Growing up in an Asian household I know it so well because we have to emphasise everything we have to make people understand that our feelings matter too.

4. Peace:

Yes, the most important thing we want when we grow up is peace so that we can focus on ourselves and our goals. When we become an adult we just somehow take up the responsibility of others and solve their problems and amidst that, we just forget our problems and the things that we need to focus on. Sometimes I just want to read a book and have a Chai sitting in the park on the fresh grass and listening to birds chirping it’s enough for me. However even though it’s free and so simple it’s the hardest thing to achieve when I become an adult.

5. Sacrifice:

If we want to become an adult we have to sacrifice our childhood which we wouldn’t have minded when we were little, however now we are sacrificing things that we don’t even need to but circumstances. The worst part is that we don’t even realize we are sacrificing until it’s too late and people don’t even see how much we are putting effort by sacrificing our mental health, our goals, our sleep, and our life.

6. Dreams:

People don’t understand how important it is to have a dream and to be able to achieve it. But as an adult dreams do come with a big sacrifice that sometimes giving up the dream is an option. What hurts the most is to see someone else in that place which you always dreamed about and which you always longed for. You will understand that dreaming is easy but you have to fight for it so that you can achieve it and you realize it when you grow up.

Final Note:

When we grow up we truly understand that materialistic things value nothing but emotion and peace of mind is so important that things don’t have any price then too it’s the most expensive to have. Focusing on yourself is very hard as an adult but please see yourself above others, understand that your life matters the most and stop caring about people, it will take time but trust me it will be worth understanding things that you don’t realize until you grow up!

May the petals teach me the art of letting go.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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Life is a MESS (well not anymore!)

Remember some things have to end for better things to begin.

In a previous post of mine, I wrote of how life at a certain point becomes so messy that sweeping through it becomes impossible and we are unable to find the way out. And here I am with an upgraded version of it that comes from within me. For the past two months, I had a little rough period because of the difference in making decisions and because I myself wasn’t able to figure it out and that is why a lot of stress was on my mind. And now that I am finally writing this I am a lot more relieved than what I wrote before this. The biggest reason why I am relieved is time because with time everything fits in place and I decided to start everything all over again. A lot of decisions were taken and a lot of mistakes were made but finally in the end everything made sense to me. The two months of hustle come to an end now and ahead it will not be like I am not going to face any problems it’s just now I know the destination and I have prepared my mind for it so I am ready. Just like I said life is bitter sweet bitter sweet, it’s a process where not every moment you are going to like but it also doesn’t mean every moment in your life will be bitter it’s a process you need to go through bitterness to crave and understand the importance of sweetness and then only you can understand it’s worth as well. Life can get messy at a certain point where we lose our minds as the path ahead is filled with so much confusion, uneasiness, and all those things that we want to run away from. But I am just going to say give time and don’t give up it might be a lot hard in the beginning but trust me one day you will say life is a mess(well not anymore!)

Keep working hard. I am rooting for you! And trust me in the end it’s all going to be worth it.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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