It’s okay to slow down.

You will find your way, even when it feels like you won’t.

I have been telling myself lately that it’s okay to slow down, and the only thing that is keeping me sane. You know when you reach a level where you are doing so much but are unable to see the result, yes, that’s where I am. I want to fly so high, but whenever I feel like I am about to touch the sky, it moves far away, and I start feeling that maybe flying high is not written in my destiny. I have been in a phase which makes me so proud to see how far I have come, but also in a phase where I am unable to be proud of myself; it feels like there is always something that pulls me back. I’m experiencing a range of emotions, but at the same time, I feel nothing; this is my standard status for so many years. And I let my emotions flow within me. If I am not feeling well mentally, then I won’t force myself to do anything, and that’s how I feel better. I always remind myself that my health is more important than anything, and if it makes me slow down, then it’s totally okay. Actually, everybody says to work hard and do it, but when it starts affecting your health, then slow down and let your emotions flow. Slowing down doesn’t mean you are behind; no, it’s all about your pace. I always remind myself to focus on my own journey and not compare it to others. It’s okay to slow down and reflect on how far you have come; it’s okay to dwell on how things didn’t go perfectly, allow all your emotions to flow; it doesn’t make you feel insane, but it will allow your mental health to be sane. Everything you are doing is perfect, even when you feel like it’s not, but at least you are trying. Life is all about making you feel all the emotions and nothing at once, so slow down if things feel too heavy, take a rest, look in the mirror and smile for how much you have held up, and if you want to cry, cry, it doesn’t make you weak but proud that you are allowing yourself to be okay.

It’s okay to grow slowly.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Rejection…

To all the doors that closed on me: I’m coming back to buy the building.

I think failure and rejection are never talked about enough; everybody tells us about success, but nobody talks about how to deal with failures and rejections. And I am here to share my thoughts on how to deal with it. I will start by going straight to the point: yes, rejection hurts the most, and it will pinch you every now and then. You may seem fine upfront, but the rejection will be eating you from the inside. So here’s what I have to say: you are allowed to fail, you are allowed to start again, and you are allowed to take a break. Never ever compare yourself to others, everyone has their own journey. Maybe you are meant to be mentally stronger to enter your phase of success. Even after becoming successful, you can experience failure because it’s a part of your life. Life is all about rocky roads, one day you will feel like you have achieved everything, while another day you will feel like you are back at the start again. Whenever I take up a new challenge, I always say to myself that I believe in myself, whatever the result will be, I will give my best, and whatever happens, happens for a reason. You need to build up your courage by trying again, by examining your failure, and rather than dwelling on what has already happened, why not focus on improving yourself and becoming stronger? This way, when you do it all over again, you can do it better, and you’ll actually feel the difference. Have the courage to believe in yourself, and failure is a part of your life. Remember, just a part of your life, it doesn’t define your life, but the courage to take that failure and lead the way towards success will define your life. And never ever listen to others and never give them the right to say anything about you or your life, it’s your life and you know how capable you are of everything. So rejection is nothing to be embarrassed about, but learn from it and make it your strength to do better.

Rejection is the most powerful motivation.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Lost a version of myself

Maybe losing is a disguise to slow down life and truly live in it. – M A

Nobody talks about that, as you become an adult, you also lose a past version of yourself, a version that you never wanted to lose. We always thought that as we grow older, things would get better, but nobody talks about the battle with life, how much we have to work hard to overcome our insecurities to see the lessons from our failures, and whether we are going to make life better or not. At this point in my life, when I look back, I’ve lost a version of myself, a version that never overthinked about life that was really optimistic in whatever she wanted to do, but after seeing and going through the struggles, every time in my mind it goes through that I have become a version where I’ve lost the spark, the spark that people feel when they accomplish big, the spark that people feel after getting into their dream college. Even though I’ve been through all of those pages, that spark is what is missing. I am at that place in my life where things are moving way too fast, and I’m getting overwhelmed. I feel like we are moving so fast in every step of our lives, before we even appreciate where we are right now, we need to move on to achieve greater things. Time is moving so fast, which has also contributed to losing the excitement, because we truly are not living in the moment, but running a race. We have become like robots. Maybe we expect so much from life that at a certain point, when we reach a step, we are so exhausted that we become so dull, so that it takes time to get our sparks back. And then that version doesn’t exist anymore. I feel like we really need to take time and reflect on what we have in our lives right now, and enjoy what truly makes us happy and brings a spark in our eyes, rather than see a lost version…

The girl and her lost version…

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Stop waiting to feel ready!

Action cures fear. Move before you feel ready.

I have been in that stage of my life where I am ready to take up the biggest challenge of my life and go ahead with it like a job. And I am a person who is ready to do a job, but when the opportunity comes, I get so afraid and insecure that will I be able to do the job? And when I start, give it some time, I feel better. Adulthood is really hard because we are constantly upgrading ourselves, learning new things, and in that, we come across a lot of challenges. However, from my personal experiences, you will never feel ready. There will never be a moment where you will feel that from tomorrow I am going to do it, no, you need to show up and then only you are going to do it. Life is all about challenges; you have to take the first step, you have to show up. That’s the biggest thing I learned: there will be no realisation before I do anything, it will only happen after I do it. Because feeling ready is not a sudden emotion, it’s a practical aspect of life, and you need to be practical about it. Feeling ready is a decision you need to make. The first few moments will be uncomfortable; however, as you show up, things will get better, and you will feel like you were born ready. It’s all about your mindset, no matter what people say, if you are ready, make the decision to do things right in your life, it will happen, slowly, but you will feel the progress. Believe in yourself and your knowledge, it’s all going to be alright, and it’s all up to you. Don’t wait to feel ready; if you know you can do it, then take up the opportunity and go for it. That’s how you learn by trusting yourself and believing in your skills, so go for it and stop waiting to feel ready!

Stop waiting to feel ready. Ready is not a feeling. It’s a decision.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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I’m trying…

Nothing hurts more than trying your absolute best and still not being good enough.

When life gets overwhelming, I always question myself about what I am even doing. It’s not working, no matter how hard I try; I always lack somewhere. Why is it just me? Why? This question haunts me the most, and the answer to it is impossible to find. I think no matter how good you are doing, there is always a time in life when life feels so heavy and you are standing on the edge, not knowing what to do next. Recently, I have been too busy with life, a lot of things to do for my future and amidst that, I am also busy thinking, will it work out for me? If it didn’t, what am I going to do? It is not easy to choose a path, but it is also harder to leave the chosen path and start over again. I think no one gives us credit for how much we are trying, everyone wants to live a good life, wants to earn money, and fulfil their wants; however, it is not as easy as it seems. It takes a lot of effort, time, and battles to get there, but people don’t understand that. If we fail at something, they will say. Why can’t you do it? It was so easy. However, I have always said that no one knows how much you struggle, so saying is easy, but only you know how much you have tried and are trying. I’m trying, I really am. However, everyone only wants to see the result, and that too good. However, what about me trying, the efforts I am putting in, why is it not okay to fail sometimes, why is it not okay to try multiple times? Just why? Everyone is trying their best, and it’s okay to be slow, take time, and be on the path, confused. That doesn’t make you a failure or someone who is not trying. I’m trying is the first step towards your biggest achievement. No matter what others say, you are doing your very best. Keep it up!

I’m trying my best, I really am

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Whatever happens, happens for a reason!

I believe. Everything happens for a reason.

I have always been someone who gets stuck at the weirdest point in my life, where I have so many things to do. And I do stress a lot about how I am going to do it, or I have to leave something behind and then regret basically making a choice. However, in all those situations, I have realised how doors get opened for me to navigate everything and not make a choice. Right now, I am in that situation, but yesterday everything worked out, making me so grateful that maybe it was my destiny to choose everything and do whatever I wanted without leaving anything behind. I have noticed that if I leave anything behind, the guilt is so bad, and it makes me wonder why I was not strong enough to do it. Maybe the result might be the same, but at least I tried. This makes me come to a realisation that whatever happens, happens for a reason, be it negative or positive. If life closes one door, that always means it will open another one in front of us unexpectedly. I am writing about my experience, which has always happened in my life. I get so afraid to take the challenges, and saying no seems easy, but when I actually do it makes me think how capable I am. If we look at life, it’s not a villain, but how we think about our life is what makes the difference. Whatever happens, happens for a reason. I always think about it like that, and it makes me feel so powerful about myself because I am taking on challenges and doing them no matter what the result is. If we take a situation that I think everyone has faced at least once in their life about how much we wanted something that didn’t work out and we feel like a failure but maybe there is something else that you were made for, just like I said it’s about our thinking that makes all the difference. So remember, whatever happens, happens for a reason!

Everything comes to you at the right time.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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It’s Okay…

It’s okay if all you did today was survive.

It’s okay if days are not going the way you want them to be. It’s okay if things are going great, and something happens, but it does not make you a failure. My life has been on a roll, I’m busy preparing for so many exams that I have a deadline this month which will decide my future, and today I cut my hand so badly that I’m recording to write this blog post. And guess what, my exam is in a week and I have injured my hand, which I’m supposed to write with. I was kind of panicking, but it’s okay, I am fine again. I am doing great, and I will be better very, very soon.  Life is like that, only it will test you at every step, and it comes so suddenly that we don’t know how to deal with it. But again, at this point in my life, where I have seen so much and been an adult for such a long time, I have learned that life works that way; it will test you, but we have to believe in ourselves. Just like happiness, there is sadness, and for the rainbow to be there, the storm has to come. After every difficulty, we definitely get to see the result; we just need to hang in there. I had the habit of always questioning myself if I didn’t accomplish something, I put such pressure on my mind and kept thinking about what went wrong, but later realised nothing was wrong, it’s just a phase of life which will go, I just need to believe in myself that I can do it. If I put pressure on myself and start questioning my existence, that world is going to do the same, and I’m not going to be okay. So let me tell you, it’s okay, you’re doing fine, one setback will not decide your future, but it’s your courage to pass through it that will. So hang in there, do what you love and remember to say this yourself when life gets a little hasty, it’s okay…

You are strong, but you are also tired, and that is okay.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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And maybe we complicated life too much

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” – Confucius

As an adult, the most important thing that I have realised is that the situation might not be that complicated, but I make it more complicated. I think about it and wonder how I will do it, and every time I am overloaded with work, I get so frustrated that I start questioning my life, but it works out in the end. I handle everything by the end of the day. But that process of overthinking and questioning makes life complicated. In the era of social media, where we get to see people’s personal lives so closely that at one time we even wonder what kind of life they are living and what we are even doing. It is so easy to compare because we can see a huge difference however, I then remember that I have my own life too, which I can make the way I want. The life I want to have, I can have, but I complicate things so much that it makes me frustrated with life. The rule is simple: don’t complicate things in life. You are strong, and just like everything, you are going to be fine. And if it doesn’t work out, it’s okay, one setback doesn’t make you a failure, but it makes you get ready for the upcoming lesson. If something comes up unexpectedly, we always panic and don’t know how to solve it. When things are not going the way we want, when everything feels tough, and when life feels like a burden, we see ourselves break down and do not dare to move on. First of all, it’s okay, everyone feels it, but as we deal with it, we learn to handle those situations, we learn how to manage everything, and I think that’s the whole point. I am speaking from my experience, when we learn how to handle things under pressure, we become experts in dealing with things that life brings to us. You are doing ok, panic is not going to bring you anything, so sit back, relax and understand life is like that, maybe you need some time to figure it out, but you are going to do it exceptionally well. And maybe we complicate life so much that we don’t see how strong we are, and life is all about simple things.

Simplicity.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write

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Don’t try too hard…It’s okay to be a loser.

Nobody realises how hard it is to always act like you’re okay. When really you’re not. It’s okay to not be okay. Remember that.

There are ample people who tell you to do hard work as much as you can now and in the future you are going to enjoy it. Don’t give up and work hard as much as you can and, so many things which are not wrong, to be honest, but why does everyone only talk about winning but not losing? It’s a life we all live and here we fail so that we can win it’s never going to be winning all the time. Hardly people when you lose say it’s okay it’s a life phase and you have to live it to move ahead. I don’t like when we always keep the expectation of winning it’s good but if things don’t go according to plan it hurts and we might become obsessed with winning which leads to giving up. But you have to keep thinking that you need to try very hard as best you can and not think about winning or losing but go with the flow and do your best trust me it will not let you have the feeling that why don’t you win. We do need a lot of people in this world who tell us that it’s okay you don’t always need to try hard just be yourself and keep working hard to satisfy yourself and to reach your goals.

Just want to say you know yourself the best and you know how hard you try every single day and I am so proud of you. At the same time, you only know how much you put in every single day, how many problems you have to go through, and every thought you fight inside your mind to not give up, and for that, I am so proud of you. If someday it’s getting too hard, stop caring about the world and forget about your goals for a specific time. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t work hard every single day you are a human who definitely deserves a break. Take a break and do nothing if you want because sometimes we need to learn and it’s mandatory that don’t try too hard…It’s okay to be a loser.

LIVE YOUR LIFE.

it’s yours anyways

don’t try to hard

it’s okay to be a loser.

Till we meet again, Be Happy, Be Grateful, and Keep Smiling – a girl who likes to write.

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